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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 608953" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Cedar, thanks for giving the music another try, I'm glad it worked for you. As far as I'm concerned, any opportunity to gain more relaxation is a good thing!</p><p></p><p>First of all I want to offer you this website: <a href="http://www.traumahealing.org/index.php" target="_blank">http://www.traumahealing.org/index.php</a></p><p></p><p>I read the book and it has good information about trauma. You may enjoy it. There are also practitioners around, trained in this method, who may help as well.</p><p></p><p>From my understanding about the brain, when we are in continuing trauma our brains actually dig out a new neuro pathway where at the first sign of the tiniest bump, our brains leap right on into the trauma zone and there we are.............in the intensity, the heart racing drama, perhaps over relatively nothing................a whole railway has been built in our brains due to continuing and unrelenting stress. <strong><em>We</em></strong> did it. What is also true though, is that <strong>we</strong> can re-train the brain to by-pass that trauma pathway. <em>I'm all about that new freeway! </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>I loved reading your clear declaration that "<span style="color: #0000ff">Now that I know? That anxiety response is history." </span><span style="color: #000000">That is how I feel too, if I have the power to change that, I'm changing that!</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #000000">This level of stress many of us have been in is SO damaging, so debilitating, so remarkably sneaky in how it ultimately gains control of our very physiology over a long period of time and then it simply becomes who we are and how we react to life. When we're younger we can tolerate it better, but as we age, the accumulative impact of this high stress begins to take a toll. So, yes, that is definitely why I always advocate that we take care of ourselves. Some of us have absolutely no idea what that means, we've either not been nurtured in that way or we have been so far removed from self care for so long we forgot how to do it. When we're frightened for our kid's well being and in some cases, their lives, our self care is the first thing to go overboard, theirs becomes paramount. Makes sense, but it is not a healthy choice. Nor is it one that brings joy, peace, laughter, adventure, passion or beauty ...................often all of this is gone from our lives as well.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #000000">It took me to get very, very far away from myself to begin to learn how to care for myself, so I am a huge advocate of that. And, especially if we are living in the world of gfgdom. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">I'm certainly not glad that you are going through all of this, but I am glad that you are realizing you can change it. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">I've read posts where parents who are further down the road tell us that there was a time span where they had to get off the merry-go-round of our difficult child's and begin to calm down from the high level of stress. Personally, I think it's more then time, more then waiting for the stress to leave and balance to return. For me, it's been much more active, I've made different choices and utilized new methods to bring myself to a peaceful and calm place. It didn't feel as if it was going to naturally j<em>ust happen</em>. (or maybe if I were 34 instead of 64 it would be a natural step!) It may for others who hadn't spent as much time in that high anxiety arena, but for me, it took some work. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">We can all travel down this new path of peacefulness and report on how this develops...........the calm AFTER the storm.....................yes, I like that.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p></p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.traumahealing.com/somatic-experiencing/waking-tiger.html" target="_blank"></a></p><p><a href="http://www.traumahealing.com/somatic-experiencing/waking-tiger.html" target="_blank"></a></p><p><a href="http://www.traumahealing.com/somatic-experiencing/waking-tiger.html" target="_blank"></a></p><p><a href="http://www.traumahealing.com/somatic-experiencing/waking-tiger.html" target="_blank"></a></p><p><a href="http://www.traumahealing.com/somatic-experiencing/waking-tiger.html" target="_blank"></a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 608953, member: 13542"] Cedar, thanks for giving the music another try, I'm glad it worked for you. As far as I'm concerned, any opportunity to gain more relaxation is a good thing! First of all I want to offer you this website: [URL]http://www.traumahealing.org/index.php[/URL] I read the book and it has good information about trauma. You may enjoy it. There are also practitioners around, trained in this method, who may help as well. From my understanding about the brain, when we are in continuing trauma our brains actually dig out a new neuro pathway where at the first sign of the tiniest bump, our brains leap right on into the trauma zone and there we are.............in the intensity, the heart racing drama, perhaps over relatively nothing................a whole railway has been built in our brains due to continuing and unrelenting stress. [B][I]We[/I][/B] did it. What is also true though, is that [B]we[/B] can re-train the brain to by-pass that trauma pathway. [I]I'm all about that new freeway! [/I] I loved reading your clear declaration that "[COLOR=#0000ff]Now that I know? That anxiety response is history." [/COLOR][COLOR=#000000]That is how I feel too, if I have the power to change that, I'm changing that![/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]This level of stress many of us have been in is SO damaging, so debilitating, so remarkably sneaky in how it ultimately gains control of our very physiology over a long period of time and then it simply becomes who we are and how we react to life. When we're younger we can tolerate it better, but as we age, the accumulative impact of this high stress begins to take a toll. So, yes, that is definitely why I always advocate that we take care of ourselves. Some of us have absolutely no idea what that means, we've either not been nurtured in that way or we have been so far removed from self care for so long we forgot how to do it. When we're frightened for our kid's well being and in some cases, their lives, our self care is the first thing to go overboard, theirs becomes paramount. Makes sense, but it is not a healthy choice. Nor is it one that brings joy, peace, laughter, adventure, passion or beauty ...................often all of this is gone from our lives as well.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000000]It took me to get very, very far away from myself to begin to learn how to care for myself, so I am a huge advocate of that. And, especially if we are living in the world of gfgdom. I'm certainly not glad that you are going through all of this, but I am glad that you are realizing you can change it. I've read posts where parents who are further down the road tell us that there was a time span where they had to get off the merry-go-round of our difficult child's and begin to calm down from the high level of stress. Personally, I think it's more then time, more then waiting for the stress to leave and balance to return. For me, it's been much more active, I've made different choices and utilized new methods to bring myself to a peaceful and calm place. It didn't feel as if it was going to naturally j[I]ust happen[/I]. (or maybe if I were 34 instead of 64 it would be a natural step!) It may for others who hadn't spent as much time in that high anxiety arena, but for me, it took some work. We can all travel down this new path of peacefulness and report on how this develops...........the calm AFTER the storm.....................yes, I like that. [/COLOR] [URL='http://www.traumahealing.com/somatic-experiencing/waking-tiger.html'] [/URL] [/QUOTE]
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