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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 608978" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Thank you, Recovering. I read the excerpt from the book, and checked out the information on the second site, as well. It is comforting to have these feelings validated, and to know there is professional help available if I cannot handle this.</p><p></p><p>It is interesting to note that the anxiety response is wide-ranging, today. Internal talk is all about things I have failed at, been shamed by, or "should" have done or known. I mean, I'm all over the board, today. So...the underlying self-talk during times of anxiety is negative stuff from forever, one after another. This must be what really sets up the anxiety response ~ in other words, when we think we are experiencing anxiety because our children are in danger, that probably isn't why we are experiencing anxiety. Negative self-talk roars into consciousness, and THAT creates anxiety. What I am seeing is that the negative imagery changes until the anxiety-provoking impact is achieved. Again, nothing whatsoever to do with the situation at hand.</p><p></p><p>I have nearly completed <u>The Untethered Soul</u>. I had decided to let a lot of old stuff go, aka the information in that book. This may have something to do with that decision.</p><p></p><p>It certainly is a strange thing.</p><p></p><p>I'm doing alright. I read one of MWM's posts, today. Like Recovering, she has been working out, and working very hard on stress reduction for awhile, now. For those who are interested, I will continue to post about this, and about how I feel as I go through, and try to release the anxiety-provoking material. It has been an amazingly interesting day in the sense that I am aware of the wide-ranging negative thought pattern. As though the intent is to create intense anxiety, and my own brain is going to keep at it until that state is achieved.</p><p></p><p>Punishment? Maybe, punishing myself for the way things have turned out for difficult child? Hard to say.... Probably a punishment pattern from childhood that feels "right" if I haven't met my own goals?</p><p></p><p>It is better to be aware. I am very surprised that this kind of thinking is what is really under the anxiety response.</p><p></p><p>Now, what possible survival value could this dynamic have? (Could be worse. I could be like that gazelle in the link Recovering sent us when the cheetah leaps. Now, that would totally suck.)</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>Anyway. I listened to Recovering's relaxation tape, again this afternoon. If you haven't taken the time to do that, give it a try. It is very helpful. Still haven't managed yoga, today. Having read MWM's post about determined stress reduction, I will be committing to yoga in the morning from here on in. Also, read that a twenty minute walk can do amazing things for our outlook and energy.</p><p></p><p>I will report back on that, too.</p><p></p><p>If this material helps me, I will be so happy. The energy devoted to digging up all that negative stuff and then, resisting it, must be enormous.</p><p></p><p>I just can't imagine what purpose it could serve, for our brains to do this to us.</p><p></p><p>What to hay?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 608978, member: 1721"] Thank you, Recovering. I read the excerpt from the book, and checked out the information on the second site, as well. It is comforting to have these feelings validated, and to know there is professional help available if I cannot handle this. It is interesting to note that the anxiety response is wide-ranging, today. Internal talk is all about things I have failed at, been shamed by, or "should" have done or known. I mean, I'm all over the board, today. So...the underlying self-talk during times of anxiety is negative stuff from forever, one after another. This must be what really sets up the anxiety response ~ in other words, when we think we are experiencing anxiety because our children are in danger, that probably isn't why we are experiencing anxiety. Negative self-talk roars into consciousness, and THAT creates anxiety. What I am seeing is that the negative imagery changes until the anxiety-provoking impact is achieved. Again, nothing whatsoever to do with the situation at hand. I have nearly completed [U]The Untethered Soul[/U]. I had decided to let a lot of old stuff go, aka the information in that book. This may have something to do with that decision. It certainly is a strange thing. I'm doing alright. I read one of MWM's posts, today. Like Recovering, she has been working out, and working very hard on stress reduction for awhile, now. For those who are interested, I will continue to post about this, and about how I feel as I go through, and try to release the anxiety-provoking material. It has been an amazingly interesting day in the sense that I am aware of the wide-ranging negative thought pattern. As though the intent is to create intense anxiety, and my own brain is going to keep at it until that state is achieved. Punishment? Maybe, punishing myself for the way things have turned out for difficult child? Hard to say.... Probably a punishment pattern from childhood that feels "right" if I haven't met my own goals? It is better to be aware. I am very surprised that this kind of thinking is what is really under the anxiety response. Now, what possible survival value could this dynamic have? (Could be worse. I could be like that gazelle in the link Recovering sent us when the cheetah leaps. Now, that would totally suck.) :O) Cedar Anyway. I listened to Recovering's relaxation tape, again this afternoon. If you haven't taken the time to do that, give it a try. It is very helpful. Still haven't managed yoga, today. Having read MWM's post about determined stress reduction, I will be committing to yoga in the morning from here on in. Also, read that a twenty minute walk can do amazing things for our outlook and energy. I will report back on that, too. If this material helps me, I will be so happy. The energy devoted to digging up all that negative stuff and then, resisting it, must be enormous. I just can't imagine what purpose it could serve, for our brains to do this to us. What to hay? [/QUOTE]
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