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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 689082" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Reading your post brought tears to my eyes Copa. It's too bad you can't see yourself through the eyes of this board.....then your self compassion would rule.....</p><p></p><p>Many years ago I had a wonderful therapist, his name was David......in one session when I was talking about myself in my usual way, I looked up and he had tears in his eyes. I asked him about it and he said, "you are so cruel to yourself, I wish you could see yourself through my eyes." </p><p></p><p>Those tears he shed for me moved me deeply. The kindness he showed me, I could not show myself at that point......but the memory stayed and as the years went by, that moment kept coming back to me, it became something I held onto.....I wanted so much to feel that compassion for myself.</p><p></p><p>Fast forward to that codependency course I took a couple of years ago. I learned to take care of me in a way I hadn't understood before. I learned to put myself first. My daughter was the catalyst for that change. I believe in karma and I believe she and I had things to work out, the biggest for me was to let go of her and focus on me. She gave me a gift.</p><p></p><p>That gift kept growing in all areas of my life. What was happening is that I began seeing myself as David had seen me all those years ago........little by little.....small choice by small choice......one step at a time.....</p><p></p><p>I saw it at work. I had many of the feelings you just expressed in the work place. It began to change. I perceived things differently and responded differently and those around me responded differently too. I was not looking through the eyes of my old self, who had abandoned myself, I was looking through the eyes of someone who felt the same compassion for myself that I had always shown to others. It changed everything Copa. Everything. </p><p></p><p>And, it began with my daughter. It began with letting her go into her own destiny and seeing my own intrinsic value. Not the value placed on me by my family or society or anything else.....my own self worth. </p><p></p><p>Your weight, your eyes, your breathing, your age, they are not who you are. Who you are is someone who oozes love, caring, intelligence, wisdom, beauty, grace, empathy and compassion for others.......that is who you are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 689082, member: 13542"] Reading your post brought tears to my eyes Copa. It's too bad you can't see yourself through the eyes of this board.....then your self compassion would rule..... Many years ago I had a wonderful therapist, his name was David......in one session when I was talking about myself in my usual way, I looked up and he had tears in his eyes. I asked him about it and he said, "you are so cruel to yourself, I wish you could see yourself through my eyes." Those tears he shed for me moved me deeply. The kindness he showed me, I could not show myself at that point......but the memory stayed and as the years went by, that moment kept coming back to me, it became something I held onto.....I wanted so much to feel that compassion for myself. Fast forward to that codependency course I took a couple of years ago. I learned to take care of me in a way I hadn't understood before. I learned to put myself first. My daughter was the catalyst for that change. I believe in karma and I believe she and I had things to work out, the biggest for me was to let go of her and focus on me. She gave me a gift. That gift kept growing in all areas of my life. What was happening is that I began seeing myself as David had seen me all those years ago........little by little.....small choice by small choice......one step at a time..... I saw it at work. I had many of the feelings you just expressed in the work place. It began to change. I perceived things differently and responded differently and those around me responded differently too. I was not looking through the eyes of my old self, who had abandoned myself, I was looking through the eyes of someone who felt the same compassion for myself that I had always shown to others. It changed everything Copa. Everything. And, it began with my daughter. It began with letting her go into her own destiny and seeing my own intrinsic value. Not the value placed on me by my family or society or anything else.....my own self worth. Your weight, your eyes, your breathing, your age, they are not who you are. Who you are is someone who oozes love, caring, intelligence, wisdom, beauty, grace, empathy and compassion for others.......that is who you are. [/QUOTE]
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