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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 593848" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Oops.</p><p></p><p>Malika, I think you are right. Jules too. I think I mistook this poor guy for the other one. I'm going to re-read the entire post and then, if I have anything to add beyond that the sexual abuse/acting out is serious, I will. Thanks for telling me.</p><p></p><p>IC, good post.</p><p></p><p>Ok, after re-reading I think this kid is probably somewhere on the spectrum with possible insecure attachment since he's been through so many caregivers and changes, but the sexual stuff bothers me the most. That almost always means kids were sexually abused themselves. They often don't remember the incident(s) as thier minds protect them (disassociation), but it lingers in their sub-coscience often compelling them to act out sexually on other kids. I feel this HAS to be addressed by a professional who is knowledgeable in the area of sexuality in kids. He will know what is and isn't normal and can usually figure out if a child was abused. A run-of-the-mill therapist/psychologist without special education in this area could miss this very important matter.</p><p></p><p>Secondly, I'd go to a neuropsychologist, not a regular psychologist. You need to see if this kid has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). The diagnosis is very important in the US, if you want to get the treatment that can give your son (and daughter) normal lives. It doesn't just go away and therapy does not change Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) behavior or thinking. These kids are differently wired in their brains and need special types of help. </p><p></p><p>It's good that all the parents are on the same page, but four parents and step-siblings to boot is still a load of people for a difficult child. They tend to like life predictable and calm.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I do owe you a big apology. One poster called his child a brat many times and I thought it was you. Calling the child a brat started me and that poster off on a bad foot, but I took it out on you when you didn't even say it. I'm genuinely apologetic. It sounds like you want to help your son and love him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 593848, member: 1550"] Oops. Malika, I think you are right. Jules too. I think I mistook this poor guy for the other one. I'm going to re-read the entire post and then, if I have anything to add beyond that the sexual abuse/acting out is serious, I will. Thanks for telling me. IC, good post. Ok, after re-reading I think this kid is probably somewhere on the spectrum with possible insecure attachment since he's been through so many caregivers and changes, but the sexual stuff bothers me the most. That almost always means kids were sexually abused themselves. They often don't remember the incident(s) as thier minds protect them (disassociation), but it lingers in their sub-coscience often compelling them to act out sexually on other kids. I feel this HAS to be addressed by a professional who is knowledgeable in the area of sexuality in kids. He will know what is and isn't normal and can usually figure out if a child was abused. A run-of-the-mill therapist/psychologist without special education in this area could miss this very important matter. Secondly, I'd go to a neuropsychologist, not a regular psychologist. You need to see if this kid has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). The diagnosis is very important in the US, if you want to get the treatment that can give your son (and daughter) normal lives. It doesn't just go away and therapy does not change Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) behavior or thinking. These kids are differently wired in their brains and need special types of help. It's good that all the parents are on the same page, but four parents and step-siblings to boot is still a load of people for a difficult child. They tend to like life predictable and calm. I do owe you a big apology. One poster called his child a brat many times and I thought it was you. Calling the child a brat started me and that poster off on a bad foot, but I took it out on you when you didn't even say it. I'm genuinely apologetic. It sounds like you want to help your son and love him. [/QUOTE]
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