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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 711505" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>You know I am thinking here how inherently limited some of us are. Namely me. I know a woman who has cancer. I have not known her long or well. She has never been to my house. She did ask me when she was going to have surgery to check on her dog. M thought this presumptuous, like she was taking advantage of a new acquaintanceship when she has lived in this town 3x longer than I and has family here. But her husband wanted to stay with her throughout the long surgery, and I understood. I helped out.</p><p></p><p>When I did not see her husband, I worried, but kept my distance, not wanting to intrude on their privacy; but also, I was afraid. I was afraid of illness. I was afraid that she may have been mutilated by her surgery (her mouth.)</p><p></p><p>The weeks turned into a month.</p><p></p><p>When I saw her husband, finally, I rushed up to him extending my good wishes to the wife, asking how she was. He said: <em>you can go in. She's in the living room.</em> I demurred. I was afraid, still.</p><p></p><p>I seldom do things just because I should. It really is a limitation of character. I wait until <em>I want</em> to do them. I did not want to go in that house or living room.</p><p></p><p>Now. There is no way back. I am really afraid to visit or call. That is what I mean about things getting decided without really deciding, and only knowing the fate of a relationship, not by intentions but by looking in the rearview mirror.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 711505, member: 18958"] You know I am thinking here how inherently limited some of us are. Namely me. I know a woman who has cancer. I have not known her long or well. She has never been to my house. She did ask me when she was going to have surgery to check on her dog. M thought this presumptuous, like she was taking advantage of a new acquaintanceship when she has lived in this town 3x longer than I and has family here. But her husband wanted to stay with her throughout the long surgery, and I understood. I helped out. When I did not see her husband, I worried, but kept my distance, not wanting to intrude on their privacy; but also, I was afraid. I was afraid of illness. I was afraid that she may have been mutilated by her surgery (her mouth.) The weeks turned into a month. When I saw her husband, finally, I rushed up to him extending my good wishes to the wife, asking how she was. He said: [I]you can go in. She's in the living room.[/I] I demurred. I was afraid, still. I seldom do things just because I should. It really is a limitation of character. I wait until [I]I want[/I] to do them. I did not want to go in that house or living room. Now. There is no way back. I am really afraid to visit or call. That is what I mean about things getting decided without really deciding, and only knowing the fate of a relationship, not by intentions but by looking in the rearview mirror. [/QUOTE]
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