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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 687598" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I for one discount the importance of diagnosis because I know how subjective it can be. Now, I understand this flies in the face of certain illnesses that are considered to be genetically based. But the reality is we really do not know enough.</p><p></p><p>For example in a certain Scandinavian nation, Finland, I believe, it has been said that there is scarcely Schizophrenia, because it requires 6 months duration of psychosis. And because there seems to be a highly effective community based response to both afflicted individual and family--the psychosis does not continue long enough to meet the 6 month criteria. This is true. And so does adolescence itself!!</p><p>Both my mother and my sister had/have personality disorders in my book. But the reality is that I too have a different personality structure that exerts strong influence over how I see the world and how I respond.</p><p></p><p>Everybody has a personality, and it really does have a subjective component, whether or not you think I am disordered or not. Did everybody think Richard Nixon was a narcissist before Watergate? Or Donald Trump, before he decided to run for president--and everybody got mad at him?</p><p>I agree with this.</p><p>Well, they say forgiveness is for the person herself, and has nothing to do with the forgiven at all.</p><p></p><p>I believe that the work I did on FOO chronicles, while I would not call it forgiveness as much as letting go, allowed me to take back my power with my sister, and find some measure of peace about my mother.</p><p></p><p>I think of my sister but I hardly ever anymore think about what she did to me, which used to eat me up. I could not bear even to think about the way she would intentionally victimize me or hurt me. Now there can be a gnawing, but only slightly and occasionally.</p><p></p><p>My sister I guess still thinks of me in the same way. She feels I am the guilty party and would never ever consider her acts in any way as unwarranted transgressions.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, what do I care what she thinks? It is I who define myself.</p><p></p><p>I think we can get to this place with our children if we accept that our mental states do not have to be determined by theirs or them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 687598, member: 18958"] I for one discount the importance of diagnosis because I know how subjective it can be. Now, I understand this flies in the face of certain illnesses that are considered to be genetically based. But the reality is we really do not know enough. For example in a certain Scandinavian nation, Finland, I believe, it has been said that there is scarcely Schizophrenia, because it requires 6 months duration of psychosis. And because there seems to be a highly effective community based response to both afflicted individual and family--the psychosis does not continue long enough to meet the 6 month criteria. This is true. And so does adolescence itself!! Both my mother and my sister had/have personality disorders in my book. But the reality is that I too have a different personality structure that exerts strong influence over how I see the world and how I respond. Everybody has a personality, and it really does have a subjective component, whether or not you think I am disordered or not. Did everybody think Richard Nixon was a narcissist before Watergate? Or Donald Trump, before he decided to run for president--and everybody got mad at him? I agree with this. Well, they say forgiveness is for the person herself, and has nothing to do with the forgiven at all. I believe that the work I did on FOO chronicles, while I would not call it forgiveness as much as letting go, allowed me to take back my power with my sister, and find some measure of peace about my mother. I think of my sister but I hardly ever anymore think about what she did to me, which used to eat me up. I could not bear even to think about the way she would intentionally victimize me or hurt me. Now there can be a gnawing, but only slightly and occasionally. My sister I guess still thinks of me in the same way. She feels I am the guilty party and would never ever consider her acts in any way as unwarranted transgressions. The thing is, what do I care what she thinks? It is I who define myself. I think we can get to this place with our children if we accept that our mental states do not have to be determined by theirs or them. [/QUOTE]
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