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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 687615" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think the word <em>release</em> is apt. In this sense, which I got off google: <em>allow or enable to escape from confinement; set free.</em></p><p></p><p>It is ourselves who we set free from the chains in which we had tied ourselves in a relationship of victimization by another. It is for each of us to understand for what reason we maintained this relationship of bondage. </p><p></p><p>It is the other person's responsibility and right to decide whether or not they want to maintain their own bondage. There are many reasons why people choose this. For example, avoidance of taking responsibility for their own behavior, choices; or wanting a scapegoat upon whom to blame their own shady choices. See. If you have hurt me I can tell myself I have a reason to retaliate against you, to take what is yours, enjoy seeing you hurt. I can do all of these things, while blaming <em>you. It is a master-slave relationship.</em> Everybody is harmed.</p><p></p><p>It is this kind of dynamic that enables our children to blame all of their problems on <em>us</em> while they keep choosing to dig themselves in deeper.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 687615, member: 18958"] I think the word [I]release[/I] is apt. In this sense, which I got off google: [I]allow or enable to escape from confinement; set free.[/I] It is ourselves who we set free from the chains in which we had tied ourselves in a relationship of victimization by another. It is for each of us to understand for what reason we maintained this relationship of bondage. It is the other person's responsibility and right to decide whether or not they want to maintain their own bondage. There are many reasons why people choose this. For example, avoidance of taking responsibility for their own behavior, choices; or wanting a scapegoat upon whom to blame their own shady choices. See. If you have hurt me I can tell myself I have a reason to retaliate against you, to take what is yours, enjoy seeing you hurt. I can do all of these things, while blaming [I]you. It is a master-slave relationship.[/I] Everybody is harmed. It is this kind of dynamic that enables our children to blame all of their problems on [I]us[/I] while they keep choosing to dig themselves in deeper. [/QUOTE]
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