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Is it time to cut daughter loose?
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 486936" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Since you don't want to have to kick her out just yet..........</p><p></p><p>You could try something along the lines of............... To Remain in the Family Home As An Adult.......Rules for her to have to follow. Once a child moves into adulthood with that 18th birthday, living at home becomes a privilege not a right, and the sooner they figure that out the better.</p><p></p><p>My adult child rules went something like this:</p><p></p><p>1. Have a full time job or be a full time student working toward a degree bringing home passing grades</p><p>2. If not a full time student, rent must be paid at a certain sum each month. (at the time I first made the rule money was not the issue, it was to get them used to the idea they were no longer children......but then money was an issue and it sure helped us a lot)</p><p>3. Cerfew is midnight. No sleepovers elsewhere, no one sleeping over at home. (if they can spend the night elsewhere they don't need the bed I provide that badly.....and bfs were still following high school rules)</p><p>4. I provide room and board, you provide everything else. (I was a tad more lenient to those who were full time students because they didn't work but clothing ect were still up to them)</p><p></p><p>The point was to help them continue to transition out of the home while making it not so cushy that they never wanted to leave. lol Which is why when Nichole said what she did I was like uhhhh no! Now Travis, even given his multiple disabilities has managed to stick to the adult rules. However during winter quarter he won't as school is becoming quite difficult.....but he IS waiting on disability then if he still wants to remain at home he has to pay rent again. </p><p></p><p>You know your daughter best. The stealing money would be a major sore spot with me. I have a real issue with stealing, right up there with lying and I have a real time even considering living with it. If it's gone beyond working with her, then perhaps it's time to just draw that line in the sand and say the time has come and get it over with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 486936, member: 84"] Since you don't want to have to kick her out just yet.......... You could try something along the lines of............... To Remain in the Family Home As An Adult.......Rules for her to have to follow. Once a child moves into adulthood with that 18th birthday, living at home becomes a privilege not a right, and the sooner they figure that out the better. My adult child rules went something like this: 1. Have a full time job or be a full time student working toward a degree bringing home passing grades 2. If not a full time student, rent must be paid at a certain sum each month. (at the time I first made the rule money was not the issue, it was to get them used to the idea they were no longer children......but then money was an issue and it sure helped us a lot) 3. Cerfew is midnight. No sleepovers elsewhere, no one sleeping over at home. (if they can spend the night elsewhere they don't need the bed I provide that badly.....and bfs were still following high school rules) 4. I provide room and board, you provide everything else. (I was a tad more lenient to those who were full time students because they didn't work but clothing ect were still up to them) The point was to help them continue to transition out of the home while making it not so cushy that they never wanted to leave. lol Which is why when Nichole said what she did I was like uhhhh no! Now Travis, even given his multiple disabilities has managed to stick to the adult rules. However during winter quarter he won't as school is becoming quite difficult.....but he IS waiting on disability then if he still wants to remain at home he has to pay rent again. You know your daughter best. The stealing money would be a major sore spot with me. I have a real issue with stealing, right up there with lying and I have a real time even considering living with it. If it's gone beyond working with her, then perhaps it's time to just draw that line in the sand and say the time has come and get it over with. [/QUOTE]
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