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Is there a graceful way to dump a friend?
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 336346" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>I would go with structured ignoring. You've already started the process of drifting, so all you need to do is escalate that.</p><p></p><p>Does your phone have call-display, or distinctive ring-tones, or some other means of identifying that she is the one calling? If so, put it to use to screen her calls. When she calls, don't answer, and don't return her calls. If she happens to catch you, then be distant and end the call quickly. Say, "You've caught me at a really bad time. I have to go now." Don't say that you'll call her back later or give her the opportunity to ask when to call you back. Just end the call after that statement. </p><p></p><p>Be polite but firm. You don't have to give her any reason. Just stop welcoming the contact. Even if she's been ignoring your hints until now, she will pick up on the new behaviour. If she continues to contact you after that, just explain politely that you no longer have as much in common and are not as interested in staying close. I think Klmno's words to that effect were excellent.</p><p></p><p>Sorry you find yourself in this predicament.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 336346, member: 3907"] I would go with structured ignoring. You've already started the process of drifting, so all you need to do is escalate that. Does your phone have call-display, or distinctive ring-tones, or some other means of identifying that she is the one calling? If so, put it to use to screen her calls. When she calls, don't answer, and don't return her calls. If she happens to catch you, then be distant and end the call quickly. Say, "You've caught me at a really bad time. I have to go now." Don't say that you'll call her back later or give her the opportunity to ask when to call you back. Just end the call after that statement. Be polite but firm. You don't have to give her any reason. Just stop welcoming the contact. Even if she's been ignoring your hints until now, she will pick up on the new behaviour. If she continues to contact you after that, just explain politely that you no longer have as much in common and are not as interested in staying close. I think Klmno's words to that effect were excellent. Sorry you find yourself in this predicament. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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