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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 336544" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>TicToc--</p><p> </p><p>We (I say we, but it was mostly husband) had a friend who--similar to situation you describe--we no longer had anything in common with. Our values did not seem to be in sync. We would decline invitations, but he did not get the hint.</p><p> </p><p>Finally, husband sat him down and just said politely, but matter-of-factly, that we had grown apart and seemed to be headed different directions in life. And that's OK. Don't feel bad--we just don't feel the same closeness that we used to. yadda yadda yadda.</p><p> </p><p>And that seemed to work. We felt bad--but relieved.</p><p> </p><p>Sometime later, we were moving. Most of our "friends" were unavailable--too busy to help. This guy (who had heard through a friend of a friend or something) came by and OFFERRED to help us--for the sake of old times. He totally went out of his way for us.</p><p> </p><p>We ended up feeling really terrible that we "dumped" him....because he turned out to be one of the best friends we ever had. Today, our kids call him Uncle.</p><p> </p><p>So yes, maybe the friendship is not what you need <em>right now--</em>but perhaps you should not close the door all the way? You never know....</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyFace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 336544, member: 6546"] TicToc-- We (I say we, but it was mostly husband) had a friend who--similar to situation you describe--we no longer had anything in common with. Our values did not seem to be in sync. We would decline invitations, but he did not get the hint. Finally, husband sat him down and just said politely, but matter-of-factly, that we had grown apart and seemed to be headed different directions in life. And that's OK. Don't feel bad--we just don't feel the same closeness that we used to. yadda yadda yadda. And that seemed to work. We felt bad--but relieved. Sometime later, we were moving. Most of our "friends" were unavailable--too busy to help. This guy (who had heard through a friend of a friend or something) came by and OFFERRED to help us--for the sake of old times. He totally went out of his way for us. We ended up feeling really terrible that we "dumped" him....because he turned out to be one of the best friends we ever had. Today, our kids call him Uncle. So yes, maybe the friendship is not what you need [I]right now--[/I]but perhaps you should not close the door all the way? You never know.... --DaisyFace [/QUOTE]
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