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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 336605" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I have a person/friend like this. She is also a "M". My M and I got to know each other when both our boys were about 8. It seemed we had a ton in common initially. Once we got to know each other, I wondered how on earth I thought I had a thing in common with her.</p><p>I tried various tactics to no avail, to dump her. It eventually plummeted to me being brutally blunt. IE> M, please stop calling me when all I hear is you interupting conversation to berate your son, call him names, tell him he's stupid, call him a retard, tell him to get the BEEP out of your face, etc. I find it very degrading to him and I cant' believe you speak to your own child that way. I also can't believe you don't see how rude it is to behave that way during a phone conversation with me, then cheerfully say "sorry about that" and resume whatever thread of chat you were previously on about. We have nothing in common. It's time we both face it and stop contacting each other.</p><p></p><p>That didn't work either!!!</p><p></p><p>So I made call display my best friend. She was the reason I had the company add it to my phone line. When I got fed up of hearing the phone ring, which I would ignore, from time to time I would answer and do as suggested above. "Sorry M, no time to talk, busy times around here" (you get the idea). The odd time I would say "No time to talk, being sucked into a social whirlwind, so sorry" (to hint I was moving on with other people, although frankly I'm a closet hermit and have a limited small group of people I consider friends that I socialize with). </p><p></p><p>She calls me a few times a year now. I don't answer. But, if I see her out in public I don't have to worry about a huge falling out etc. She probably feels crappy towards me and doesn't like me much now, which is fine. But because it didnt' come to a huge fight or war of words, we are civil and that means no drama.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, it can be tricky.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 336605, member: 4264"] I have a person/friend like this. She is also a "M". My M and I got to know each other when both our boys were about 8. It seemed we had a ton in common initially. Once we got to know each other, I wondered how on earth I thought I had a thing in common with her. I tried various tactics to no avail, to dump her. It eventually plummeted to me being brutally blunt. IE> M, please stop calling me when all I hear is you interupting conversation to berate your son, call him names, tell him he's stupid, call him a retard, tell him to get the BEEP out of your face, etc. I find it very degrading to him and I cant' believe you speak to your own child that way. I also can't believe you don't see how rude it is to behave that way during a phone conversation with me, then cheerfully say "sorry about that" and resume whatever thread of chat you were previously on about. We have nothing in common. It's time we both face it and stop contacting each other. That didn't work either!!! So I made call display my best friend. She was the reason I had the company add it to my phone line. When I got fed up of hearing the phone ring, which I would ignore, from time to time I would answer and do as suggested above. "Sorry M, no time to talk, busy times around here" (you get the idea). The odd time I would say "No time to talk, being sucked into a social whirlwind, so sorry" (to hint I was moving on with other people, although frankly I'm a closet hermit and have a limited small group of people I consider friends that I socialize with). She calls me a few times a year now. I don't answer. But, if I see her out in public I don't have to worry about a huge falling out etc. She probably feels crappy towards me and doesn't like me much now, which is fine. But because it didnt' come to a huge fight or war of words, we are civil and that means no drama. Good luck, it can be tricky. [/QUOTE]
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