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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 697206" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Hi and welcome, Camille!</p><p></p><p>I don't think most of us view our situations with finality. </p><p></p><p>We are realistic about the present, but most of us believe and hope that our loved ones will "see the light" a some point. </p><p></p><p>This has actually happened with many of our loved ones, some who are now middle-aged adults who have been on a downward spiral for many years. </p><p></p><p>There is always hope. People can change. But they have to want it for themselves.</p><p></p><p>There are some common denominators with most of our adult kids. I think most have one or more of these things going on (though probably not an exhaustive list):</p><p></p><p>Addictions (alcohol or drugs, usually)</p><p>Mental Illness (untreated)</p><p>Learning Disabilities/differences/challenges (making it harder to function in society)</p><p>Personality Disorders (untreated)</p><p>Sense of Entitlement (whether because of the above issues or not)</p><p>Anger Issues</p><p></p><p>The problem is, we can't make adults do anything. We cant make them want to/go to get treatment for mental illnesses or addictions, get help for anger management or force them to get Social Services for housing, job training, medical help, or anything else. </p><p></p><p>I wish we could. </p><p></p><p>If you can convince your son to get help, that would be great. Send him a list of services he could access. Community mental health services, drug/alcohol rehab provided by the state, other services he could avail himself of. Hopefully he will take advantage of them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 697206, member: 16024"] Hi and welcome, Camille! I don't think most of us view our situations with finality. We are realistic about the present, but most of us believe and hope that our loved ones will "see the light" a some point. This has actually happened with many of our loved ones, some who are now middle-aged adults who have been on a downward spiral for many years. There is always hope. People can change. But they have to want it for themselves. There are some common denominators with most of our adult kids. I think most have one or more of these things going on (though probably not an exhaustive list): Addictions (alcohol or drugs, usually) Mental Illness (untreated) Learning Disabilities/differences/challenges (making it harder to function in society) Personality Disorders (untreated) Sense of Entitlement (whether because of the above issues or not) Anger Issues The problem is, we can't make adults do anything. We cant make them want to/go to get treatment for mental illnesses or addictions, get help for anger management or force them to get Social Services for housing, job training, medical help, or anything else. I wish we could. If you can convince your son to get help, that would be great. Send him a list of services he could access. Community mental health services, drug/alcohol rehab provided by the state, other services he could avail himself of. Hopefully he will take advantage of them. [/QUOTE]
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