Terry,
I agree - It is unfortunate that this thread is just as relevant today as it was over three years ago. Like your difficult child, my difficult children have gotten better about using the toilet but still have issues with hygiene. difficult child 1 recently told easy child/difficult child 3 that tooth paste is over rated. She doesn't think he owns a toothbrush! However, he uses mouth wash daily. difficult child 2 tries to keep himself clean but when we visit him, he usually has food on his face, dirt under his way too long fingernails. I'm not sure he washes his hands after using the bathroom because as soon as the toilet flushes, he's out of there.
I think difficult child 2 will always have some difficulty keeping himself clean even though he tries. I was surprised to hear about difficult child 1's poor dental hygiene. I really thought difficult child 1 was way past past all of this! SFR