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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 741503" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>Might I suggest that bailing him out of emergencies, his credit cards and the rest of life isn't going to help. Yes I'm a staunch proponent of tough love and it hasn't worked for my son. But he has learned to handle his own emergencies, finances, legal trouble, etc. He doesn't come to me for those things because he's an adult. </p><p></p><p>What if no one pays his credit cards? They'll be cut off and? ...he won't be able to get a cash advance for his next fix? He'll have to declare bankruptcy? I just don't understand the concern.</p><p></p><p>If he has an emergency and you can't get there who suffers? Him or you? There are social services, charities and an IOP program set up there to help him. Is your concern really about him? </p><p></p><p>Please re-read what Copa said about separation and detaching. He's an adult. Are you sure you're treating him like one? Are you giving him room to grow? Failure is part of growing. Bankruptcy is failure and brings about growth.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 741503, member: 23371"] Might I suggest that bailing him out of emergencies, his credit cards and the rest of life isn't going to help. Yes I'm a staunch proponent of tough love and it hasn't worked for my son. But he has learned to handle his own emergencies, finances, legal trouble, etc. He doesn't come to me for those things because he's an adult. What if no one pays his credit cards? They'll be cut off and? ...he won't be able to get a cash advance for his next fix? He'll have to declare bankruptcy? I just don't understand the concern. If he has an emergency and you can't get there who suffers? Him or you? There are social services, charities and an IOP program set up there to help him. Is your concern really about him? Please re-read what Copa said about separation and detaching. He's an adult. Are you sure you're treating him like one? Are you giving him room to grow? Failure is part of growing. Bankruptcy is failure and brings about growth. [/QUOTE]
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