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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 764693" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Oh No!!! What are you going to do? She can't be allowed to do this again. That she needs to understand that she will suffer the consequences, not you, not the puppy, is a bottom line. But more importantly, her reaction may show that she is still fragile, volatile, and has very little impulse control. And that she is not safe at home.</p><p></p><p> I can't opine what should happen or what you should do, but they need you to consent to send her home. If she is destroying your property and hurting the animal, how can she come home? It is not good for her. It is horrible for you. I think you made the exact right call to say no to the visit with the friend. And her reaction bore that out.</p><p></p><p>Good.</p><p></p><p>Isn't she showing here by her behavior and lack of self-control that your home is not where she belongs right now? Can you and do you want to press the psychiatric hospital to discharge her to an extended treatment facility? When my son went to an out-of-district school on the IEP there was a residential component. The district paid for a taxi to take him every day and back for 45 min. drive each way. But that is not my point. My point is the school district must pay for their part of the costs. That is the law. And the County through which you adopted her needs to pay the residential component if this is what she needs.</p><p></p><p>If she is not safe in your home for now (and how could you ever be equipped to handle this kind of behavior?) how can she come back, until she is stabilized? I know I am being repetitive here. <em>She may be demonstrating she needs more extended treatment in a higher level of care than at home, for now at least. </em></p><p></p><p>I am not talking here about consequences, although they are important. This is what I am saying: Had she been capable of handling home, she would have handled home.</p><p></p><p> Your interests and your daughter's best interests are not in opposition. They are exactly the same. You need her to be acting in a socialized and appropriate manner. And her welfare requires this, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 764693, member: 18958"] Oh No!!! What are you going to do? She can't be allowed to do this again. That she needs to understand that she will suffer the consequences, not you, not the puppy, is a bottom line. But more importantly, her reaction may show that she is still fragile, volatile, and has very little impulse control. And that she is not safe at home. I can't opine what should happen or what you should do, but they need you to consent to send her home. If she is destroying your property and hurting the animal, how can she come home? It is not good for her. It is horrible for you. I think you made the exact right call to say no to the visit with the friend. And her reaction bore that out. Good. Isn't she showing here by her behavior and lack of self-control that your home is not where she belongs right now? Can you and do you want to press the psychiatric hospital to discharge her to an extended treatment facility? When my son went to an out-of-district school on the IEP there was a residential component. The district paid for a taxi to take him every day and back for 45 min. drive each way. But that is not my point. My point is the school district must pay for their part of the costs. That is the law. And the County through which you adopted her needs to pay the residential component if this is what she needs. If she is not safe in your home for now (and how could you ever be equipped to handle this kind of behavior?) how can she come back, until she is stabilized? I know I am being repetitive here. [I]She may be demonstrating she needs more extended treatment in a higher level of care than at home, for now at least. [/I] I am not talking here about consequences, although they are important. This is what I am saying: Had she been capable of handling home, she would have handled home. Your interests and your daughter's best interests are not in opposition. They are exactly the same. You need her to be acting in a socialized and appropriate manner. And her welfare requires this, too. [/QUOTE]
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