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<blockquote data-quote="skittles" data-source="post: 754808" data-attributes="member: 2484"><p>Beebz</p><p>your son is probably holding it together far better than you think. He’s holding it together well enough to know what kind of things to promise you. that shows some forethought and planning. sounds to me like his desperation is pretty self-serving. i’ve been there so I really feel for you, I know exactly how hard it is. my son had to spend a full year in the Elgin Middlesex detention centre before he even got a court date, because I wouldn’t bail him out. If you Google it you will see that this detension centre is probably the worst in Canada. I truly did worry about him in there, but this was his third time in prison. perhaps if I had not bailed him out his first time, he wouldn’t of ended up in there on an armed robbery charge. so if you stick to your guns, you May be saving him from a far worse offence in the future. try to stay strong, I know how all consuming it is worrying about a child in prison, But I also found after a while that it was a wonderful chance for me to learn how to be me instead of just his mother. that was the one bonus to such a long sentence, i Don’t know what your son is looking at for time. I found his shorter sentences just reinforce the drama, it goes from bail hearings to court case to probation or visits in jail etc. Once they have a long federal sentence like my son had and they get sent out of town, it really created a much-needed distance for me. so one way to look at it is it’s an opportunity for you to have a bit of an emotional and mental break and let the authorities be his caretaker for a while instead of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="skittles, post: 754808, member: 2484"] Beebz your son is probably holding it together far better than you think. He’s holding it together well enough to know what kind of things to promise you. that shows some forethought and planning. sounds to me like his desperation is pretty self-serving. i’ve been there so I really feel for you, I know exactly how hard it is. my son had to spend a full year in the Elgin Middlesex detention centre before he even got a court date, because I wouldn’t bail him out. If you Google it you will see that this detension centre is probably the worst in Canada. I truly did worry about him in there, but this was his third time in prison. perhaps if I had not bailed him out his first time, he wouldn’t of ended up in there on an armed robbery charge. so if you stick to your guns, you May be saving him from a far worse offence in the future. try to stay strong, I know how all consuming it is worrying about a child in prison, But I also found after a while that it was a wonderful chance for me to learn how to be me instead of just his mother. that was the one bonus to such a long sentence, i Don’t know what your son is looking at for time. I found his shorter sentences just reinforce the drama, it goes from bail hearings to court case to probation or visits in jail etc. Once they have a long federal sentence like my son had and they get sent out of town, it really created a much-needed distance for me. so one way to look at it is it’s an opportunity for you to have a bit of an emotional and mental break and let the authorities be his caretaker for a while instead of you. [/QUOTE]
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