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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 746633" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Text it to him in as few words as possible.</p><p></p><p>Let me explain my point of view and you can consider it or reject it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I dont argue anymore. With anyone. Especially a person who will blow up. Nothing good comes of that. </p><p></p><p>I believe "less is more."</p><p></p><p>If you do overtalk, he will turn the conversation in circles and start abusing you .You are not a professional mental health worker and have no idea how to talk to a crazed adult who would egg a car at his age. None of us could know what to say that would be helpful in that situation and keep it rational.</p><p></p><p>I would just go with a few short text messages if you do intend to take the rent away if he wont let the workers check on him. Trying to understand his point of view probably wont make sense. I doubt he understands his own self. He is very confused.</p><p></p><p> Here is a grim thought. I apologize for even bringing it up. He may be back on drugs (the egg saga is so weird!). I truly hope he is not but you cant totally reject the possibility. If so talking to him is useless. But I will believe he is still clean.</p><p></p><p>I handle difficult people these days with "less is more" and for me it has worked well and caused me less angst. Probably caused them less angst too.</p><p></p><p>You decide what your bottom line is for you to financially support him.</p><p></p><p>If there IS no bottom line that will cause you to pull your financial support, then you really have no leverage so what he chooses to do you just accept. Then it really is all up to him. In that case I would just let it go and pray. No texts. No point in getting emotional.</p><p></p><p>My attitude is that action is more powerful and louder than a contentious conversation in which people get upset. Actions speak louder than words in my opinion. Consider this.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you do, we care about you and your son. Our support is unconditional. Hugs and please accept a hot cup of Starbucks coffee and a blueberry muffin! Find peace tonight. This is not the worst thing ever. Nor the end of his story.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 746633, member: 1550"] Text it to him in as few words as possible. Let me explain my point of view and you can consider it or reject it :) I dont argue anymore. With anyone. Especially a person who will blow up. Nothing good comes of that. I believe "less is more." If you do overtalk, he will turn the conversation in circles and start abusing you .You are not a professional mental health worker and have no idea how to talk to a crazed adult who would egg a car at his age. None of us could know what to say that would be helpful in that situation and keep it rational. I would just go with a few short text messages if you do intend to take the rent away if he wont let the workers check on him. Trying to understand his point of view probably wont make sense. I doubt he understands his own self. He is very confused. Here is a grim thought. I apologize for even bringing it up. He may be back on drugs (the egg saga is so weird!). I truly hope he is not but you cant totally reject the possibility. If so talking to him is useless. But I will believe he is still clean. I handle difficult people these days with "less is more" and for me it has worked well and caused me less angst. Probably caused them less angst too. You decide what your bottom line is for you to financially support him. If there IS no bottom line that will cause you to pull your financial support, then you really have no leverage so what he chooses to do you just accept. Then it really is all up to him. In that case I would just let it go and pray. No texts. No point in getting emotional. My attitude is that action is more powerful and louder than a contentious conversation in which people get upset. Actions speak louder than words in my opinion. Consider this. Whatever you do, we care about you and your son. Our support is unconditional. Hugs and please accept a hot cup of Starbucks coffee and a blueberry muffin! Find peace tonight. This is not the worst thing ever. Nor the end of his story. [/QUOTE]
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