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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 746644" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Thanks for all your thoughts and responses. I am definitely in touch and communicating with the program. We may end up having a meeting with him and the program to talk about this....and that may be the way to go which may be the best way to go. I agree with Copa.... I dont really need to get into his motivations etc..... I think what I was trying to say was I need to listen more to where he is at rather than coming at it from a “laying down the law” attitude which has never worked. He and I get into these power struggles and that is what I want to avoid.</p><p></p><p>The whole egging of the car thing was weird. On the one hand it didnt surprise me and on the other hand it was a wake up call in a way. This program is dual diagnosis and in many ways I have felt my son is more on the substance abuse end of things than the mental health end of many of their clients..... but really what 27 year old gets mad and something and so eggs the car? To me that is just not normal behavior, even for a drug addict. I dont think deciding he doesnt like the intrusion of people checking on his safety and so wanting a no tresspass order is normal either .... its like going to extremes. He is smart and goes to extremes. My son is functional in many ways but I think in some ways his thinking is off.... and his reactions to things are off. </p><p></p><p>He may be back on drugs.... that is always a possibility. That has happened way too many times for me to discount that possibility.</p><p>I also know that my son tends to be secretive and private on principal so it is hard to tell. He is also doing some good things. </p><p></p><p>As long as my son stays involved with this program and they with him I am willing to pay rent....because they help give me peace of mind and I think they may save his life.....if he completely walks away from them then I will not pay rent and he will end up on the streets. </p><p></p><p>And Trying I was going to respond to your other thread that yes my son does respond like your son in anger.....has for a long time. Has gotten himself into hot water by his reactions many times.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 746644, member: 15801"] Thanks for all your thoughts and responses. I am definitely in touch and communicating with the program. We may end up having a meeting with him and the program to talk about this....and that may be the way to go which may be the best way to go. I agree with Copa.... I dont really need to get into his motivations etc..... I think what I was trying to say was I need to listen more to where he is at rather than coming at it from a “laying down the law” attitude which has never worked. He and I get into these power struggles and that is what I want to avoid. The whole egging of the car thing was weird. On the one hand it didnt surprise me and on the other hand it was a wake up call in a way. This program is dual diagnosis and in many ways I have felt my son is more on the substance abuse end of things than the mental health end of many of their clients..... but really what 27 year old gets mad and something and so eggs the car? To me that is just not normal behavior, even for a drug addict. I dont think deciding he doesnt like the intrusion of people checking on his safety and so wanting a no tresspass order is normal either .... its like going to extremes. He is smart and goes to extremes. My son is functional in many ways but I think in some ways his thinking is off.... and his reactions to things are off. He may be back on drugs.... that is always a possibility. That has happened way too many times for me to discount that possibility. I also know that my son tends to be secretive and private on principal so it is hard to tell. He is also doing some good things. As long as my son stays involved with this program and they with him I am willing to pay rent....because they help give me peace of mind and I think they may save his life.....if he completely walks away from them then I will not pay rent and he will end up on the streets. And Trying I was going to respond to your other thread that yes my son does respond like your son in anger.....has for a long time. Has gotten himself into hot water by his reactions many times. [/QUOTE]
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