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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 746672" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Yes no guarantees. At this point I have no faith at all, and in fact a lot of fear that my son being on the streets with no support from us might be the end for him. The reason being is we have been there before..... we kicked him out of the house when he was 18. He lived with friends for awhile. Many things transpired including some rehabs along the way. After one relapse we said no more help and he was on his own... he lived on the streets for 3 months in the middle of winter in Denver. That had to be the worst time in my life. I was so worried about him. Eventually he called us quite sick and we got him a bus ticket to a friend in CA who got him into treatment. He did well for awhile. But I don’t think he would have been able to get a job on his own. He was living by panhandling and dumpster diving and with the help of a youth homeless program and who knows what else. He also has had the experience of really seeing the addiction in himself and wanting to get clean and going for help..... and getting sober because he wants it......but then relapsing..... So I am not sure with him that it is going to be a dramatic one time hit bottom shift. HE has hit some pretty rock bottoms....and eventually relapsed and graduated to heroin. So my fear at this point is that he will relapse and go so far down he wont come back. </p><p></p><p>So our stand is and will continue to be we will help him as long as he is helping himself.....which admittedly he is a bit on the edge right now. He is doing some really good things right now with school etc.... but seems to be also pushing away help and that may very well be a red flag. Time will tell.</p><p></p><p>But Copa you put it really well.... I cannot give him a safe harbor to hurt himself. I like the way you put that. So if he walks away from the program that is really providing a safety net for him (and us) then I can’t keep paying rent for him because then he really isnt doing anything to help himself. As long as he is involved with them, is engaging with them at some level I feel there is hope. If he stops doing that then I need to withdraw financial support.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 746672, member: 15801"] Yes no guarantees. At this point I have no faith at all, and in fact a lot of fear that my son being on the streets with no support from us might be the end for him. The reason being is we have been there before..... we kicked him out of the house when he was 18. He lived with friends for awhile. Many things transpired including some rehabs along the way. After one relapse we said no more help and he was on his own... he lived on the streets for 3 months in the middle of winter in Denver. That had to be the worst time in my life. I was so worried about him. Eventually he called us quite sick and we got him a bus ticket to a friend in CA who got him into treatment. He did well for awhile. But I don’t think he would have been able to get a job on his own. He was living by panhandling and dumpster diving and with the help of a youth homeless program and who knows what else. He also has had the experience of really seeing the addiction in himself and wanting to get clean and going for help..... and getting sober because he wants it......but then relapsing..... So I am not sure with him that it is going to be a dramatic one time hit bottom shift. HE has hit some pretty rock bottoms....and eventually relapsed and graduated to heroin. So my fear at this point is that he will relapse and go so far down he wont come back. So our stand is and will continue to be we will help him as long as he is helping himself.....which admittedly he is a bit on the edge right now. He is doing some really good things right now with school etc.... but seems to be also pushing away help and that may very well be a red flag. Time will tell. But Copa you put it really well.... I cannot give him a safe harbor to hurt himself. I like the way you put that. So if he walks away from the program that is really providing a safety net for him (and us) then I can’t keep paying rent for him because then he really isnt doing anything to help himself. As long as he is involved with them, is engaging with them at some level I feel there is hope. If he stops doing that then I need to withdraw financial support. TL [/QUOTE]
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