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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 765916" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>Thank you Copa. You all are the kindest, most caring people ever, and I consider it a blessing that I found this site five years ago.</p><p></p><p>I guess I’m finding out how much I can bear with these latest grief-inducing moments. I just take it a day at a time, maybe even a step at a time to get through it. This too shall pass…</p><p></p><p>I spoke to my cousin last night. She called and told me about having to identify her son at the coroner’s. She said she was grateful that he died peacefully in his sleep and not in a violent way. Also that he had asked to come and see his kids a few days before he died. She said they had a great time together and it left everyone with good feelings the last time they saw him.</p><p></p><p>I am going to look online for a company that delivers food that needs little preparation and send her some.</p><p></p><p>It is very surreal almost. First, she is comforting me because I lost my son 7 months ago and she had been through it 15 years ago but not under the same circumstances. Now I am comforting her because she just lost her son to almost identical circumstances that I lost mine and I am trying to help her. I am now the experienced one.</p><p></p><p>She understands the grief process having lived it previously but it’s a little different now that she is no longer grieving the living. She is doing well overall. We even managed to look back at our vacation and chuckle over a couple of truly funny things that were said. It really was a great vacation filled with laughter and jokes and a lot of love.</p><p></p><p>When I left, my other cousin who was there said they were so glad we came all that way and that they had been searching for me and my siblings for years. (They didn’t attend) I wasn’t even aware anyone was looking for me. He told me not to wait 50 years next time, lol.</p><p></p><p>So even as my son’s death has caused us such grief and sadness, out of it this new relationship has developed and brought unexpected joy into my life and into my cousin’s lives as well. It’s easy to see that it happened for a reason. We needed to be here for each other. God had a plan.</p><p></p><p>Following is a reading I picked out for my son’s Celebration of Life service in April on the positive side of grief. I think it applies here.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thanks again, Copa. I wish our friendships here weren’t from afar but I’ll take it any way it comes and send much love in return.</p><p></p><p> Love, Nandina</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 765916, member: 23742"] Thank you Copa. You all are the kindest, most caring people ever, and I consider it a blessing that I found this site five years ago. I guess I’m finding out how much I can bear with these latest grief-inducing moments. I just take it a day at a time, maybe even a step at a time to get through it. This too shall pass… I spoke to my cousin last night. She called and told me about having to identify her son at the coroner’s. She said she was grateful that he died peacefully in his sleep and not in a violent way. Also that he had asked to come and see his kids a few days before he died. She said they had a great time together and it left everyone with good feelings the last time they saw him. I am going to look online for a company that delivers food that needs little preparation and send her some. It is very surreal almost. First, she is comforting me because I lost my son 7 months ago and she had been through it 15 years ago but not under the same circumstances. Now I am comforting her because she just lost her son to almost identical circumstances that I lost mine and I am trying to help her. I am now the experienced one. She understands the grief process having lived it previously but it’s a little different now that she is no longer grieving the living. She is doing well overall. We even managed to look back at our vacation and chuckle over a couple of truly funny things that were said. It really was a great vacation filled with laughter and jokes and a lot of love. When I left, my other cousin who was there said they were so glad we came all that way and that they had been searching for me and my siblings for years. (They didn’t attend) I wasn’t even aware anyone was looking for me. He told me not to wait 50 years next time, lol. So even as my son’s death has caused us such grief and sadness, out of it this new relationship has developed and brought unexpected joy into my life and into my cousin’s lives as well. It’s easy to see that it happened for a reason. We needed to be here for each other. God had a plan. Following is a reading I picked out for my son’s Celebration of Life service in April on the positive side of grief. I think it applies here. Thanks again, Copa. I wish our friendships here weren’t from afar but I’ll take it any way it comes and send much love in return. Love, Nandina [/QUOTE]
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