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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 765932" data-attributes="member: 3305">Wow Nandina!&nbsp; Your family really appears to have been attacked by addiction in the last generation.&nbsp; Amazing that all that addiction stemmed from good Christian upbringing.&nbsp; Yes I was definitely abused along the way but mostly neglected by my mom and moved all over the country with no stable friendships growing up and no brothers or sisters to lean on for support.&nbsp; And like I said before I didn’t meet my good for nothing alcoholic bio dad till I was 16.&nbsp; He had no apologies for me. This is why it was SO important for me to be the perfect mom and live in a perfect house and have perfect kids to raise.&nbsp; When my sons went off the deep end into drugs as teenagers I lost my fairytale life.&nbsp; And my world came crashing down.&nbsp; I believe I am strong…even after losing my beloved son 2 1/2 years ago.&nbsp; I may never forgive some family members like my mom and cousins for not being there for me the past 2 1/2 years.&nbsp; Yes my mom is definitely a narcissist.&nbsp; She can never be the “bad guy” it’s always someone else’s fault.&nbsp; I don’t think she was abused growing up.&nbsp; In fact I hear she was the spoiled baby of the family.&nbsp; She was raised by my 2 hard working grandparents and had an older sister and they lived in one small town till she divorced my bio dad and started moving all over the country with me. I know God knows what He’s doing…but boy sometimes life doesn’t feel fair at all Nandina! Like you say we have to count our blessings.&nbsp; I still have my husband of 38 years and daughter and 2 oldest grandchildren and you and our support forum here.&nbsp; Keep moving forward and trusting in His divine guidance.&nbsp; That’s all we can do.&nbsp; Love you, LMS</blockquote>

[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 765932, member: 3305"] Wow Nandina! Your family really appears to have been attacked by addiction in the last generation. Amazing that all that addiction stemmed from good Christian upbringing. Yes I was definitely abused along the way but mostly neglected by my mom and moved all over the country with no stable friendships growing up and no brothers or sisters to lean on for support. And like I said before I didn’t meet my good for nothing alcoholic bio dad till I was 16. He had no apologies for me. This is why it was SO important for me to be the perfect mom and live in a perfect house and have perfect kids to raise. When my sons went off the deep end into drugs as teenagers I lost my fairytale life. And my world came crashing down. I believe I am strong…even after losing my beloved son 2 1/2 years ago. I may never forgive some family members like my mom and cousins for not being there for me the past 2 1/2 years. Yes my mom is definitely a narcissist. She can never be the “bad guy” it’s always someone else’s fault. I don’t think she was abused growing up. In fact I hear she was the spoiled baby of the family. She was raised by my 2 hard working grandparents and had an older sister and they lived in one small town till she divorced my bio dad and started moving all over the country with me. I know God knows what He’s doing…but boy sometimes life doesn’t feel fair at all Nandina! Like you say we have to count our blessings. I still have my husband of 38 years and daughter and 2 oldest grandchildren and you and our support forum here. Keep moving forward and trusting in His divine guidance. That’s all we can do. Love you, LMS [/QUOTE]

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