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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 714431" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome!</p><p></p><p>I think you posted because you feel alone and are looking for support and wanting to know you are not alone! You are not alone!</p><p></p><p>True it COULD be worse BUT it can GET worse!!</p><p></p><p>Right now it sounds like your son is running the house. We went through that also but I did not have this forum when he was 15 so I did not know what the hell was going on. You are way ahead of the game by being able to come here and post for advice and read what others have done that works or does not work.</p><p></p><p>My son started out with marijuana but moved on to much harder drugs. Here we are and he's almost 22. You can see by my signature that is has been a long road for us.</p><p></p><p>If my son had just smoked a little weed and did everything else he was supposed to do, we would have been okay with it. However that was NOT the case. For him it was a gateway drug.</p><p></p><p>My advice is since your son is not doing anything else that is productive, he should not be allowed to smoke weed inside OR outside. I would take all his "stuff" away and remove the door from his room. He does not get privacy in YOUR home when he is not following your rules. </p><p></p><p>I would recommend that <strong>you (</strong>and husband if he'll go) see a therapist to possibly help you deal with him as you say this has been going on for years and it sounds like he has all the "gene" cards stacked against him. You could be in for a long and bumpy ride.</p><p></p><p>We did everything under the sun to help our son and I don't know if any of it made a difference. I do hope that you can get a handle on this and not continue to let it run your life. I'm not saying you will have the issues we had and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy but it's good advice in any case. Don't be afraid to get him mad. Too bad if he's mad. That is one thing I would have done differently if it were me. I don't know if it would have made a difference though.</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 714431, member: 15032"] Welcome! I think you posted because you feel alone and are looking for support and wanting to know you are not alone! You are not alone! True it COULD be worse BUT it can GET worse!! Right now it sounds like your son is running the house. We went through that also but I did not have this forum when he was 15 so I did not know what the hell was going on. You are way ahead of the game by being able to come here and post for advice and read what others have done that works or does not work. My son started out with marijuana but moved on to much harder drugs. Here we are and he's almost 22. You can see by my signature that is has been a long road for us. If my son had just smoked a little weed and did everything else he was supposed to do, we would have been okay with it. However that was NOT the case. For him it was a gateway drug. My advice is since your son is not doing anything else that is productive, he should not be allowed to smoke weed inside OR outside. I would take all his "stuff" away and remove the door from his room. He does not get privacy in YOUR home when he is not following your rules. I would recommend that [B]you ([/B]and husband if he'll go) see a therapist to possibly help you deal with him as you say this has been going on for years and it sounds like he has all the "gene" cards stacked against him. You could be in for a long and bumpy ride. We did everything under the sun to help our son and I don't know if any of it made a difference. I do hope that you can get a handle on this and not continue to let it run your life. I'm not saying you will have the issues we had and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy but it's good advice in any case. Don't be afraid to get him mad. Too bad if he's mad. That is one thing I would have done differently if it were me. I don't know if it would have made a difference though. :notalone::staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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