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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 599841" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>My son was difficult from the day he was born, and the times his dad was in the picture only made things worse. I felt a tremendous amount of guilt from the way my marriage had turned out. </p><p></p><p>My son is now turning 35 and I have finally realized there is nothing I can do. He is in a relationship and they literally may kill each other - they fight a lot and he cuts himself and threatens suicide and the last one (that I know of) she came after him with a knife and he called the police - she was sent to detox and he Baker Acted himself. Her relatives told him she was going to kill him when she got out of jail. They sat all of his belongings out in the rain and most was stolen, he was living in the woods. I spent money to help him relocate and start over (this is after about a 4 month conn for money I had fell for) and I am positive they are back together.</p><p></p><p>In November I had finally had enough and said no more, he threatened suicide and stealing if I did not give him money. He actually went no contact with me and it gave me the opportunity to take a really good look at our relationship. It is harder some days more than others, overall the absence of his drama, dramatic lies, conns has made my days much more peaceful.</p><p></p><p>My son is a follower and girlie is jealous and controlling, she has caused him to cut ties with all of his friends. Some were helping him to get his life together. I called the police to stop her harassment so at least that has stopped.</p><p></p><p>Your son's pleas for help and money will probably get worse, until he understands that when you say no you mean it. It's hard, they are our children, but my health began to suffer and I feel I have a right to a better life. in my opinion nothing I have done over the years to help has actually helped.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I never give up hope that my son will turn his life around, I just don't hold my breath waiting for it. There are many programs out there for them when they are ready to help themselves. If I had all of the money I have spent trying to help my son I could go on a vacation of a lifetime lol!!!</p><p></p><p>I am lucky that there are no children - they would only be used as pawns against me. Read all of the many books out there, it does help, and reading the posts here, the members on this forum are wonderful. I mediate, pray, exercise, keep busy with hobbies, forgive my self, turn things over to my HP as much as I can. My hubby of 14 years is not his father so he is not as emotionally attached with my problem. I have had some family members criticize my decisions, so I don't discuss things with them.</p><p></p><p>I never in a million years believed I would be in this situation at my age (60), I had always believed my son would out grow this and become a responsible member of society. The heartbreak can be overwhelming and consume your life, if you let it, that is the one thing you can control, they are out of our hands. I know so many people that have grown unemployed adults sleeping on their sofa, I refuse to do it any more.</p><p>(((hugs and blessings for you and yours)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 599841, member: 13558"] My son was difficult from the day he was born, and the times his dad was in the picture only made things worse. I felt a tremendous amount of guilt from the way my marriage had turned out. My son is now turning 35 and I have finally realized there is nothing I can do. He is in a relationship and they literally may kill each other - they fight a lot and he cuts himself and threatens suicide and the last one (that I know of) she came after him with a knife and he called the police - she was sent to detox and he Baker Acted himself. Her relatives told him she was going to kill him when she got out of jail. They sat all of his belongings out in the rain and most was stolen, he was living in the woods. I spent money to help him relocate and start over (this is after about a 4 month conn for money I had fell for) and I am positive they are back together. In November I had finally had enough and said no more, he threatened suicide and stealing if I did not give him money. He actually went no contact with me and it gave me the opportunity to take a really good look at our relationship. It is harder some days more than others, overall the absence of his drama, dramatic lies, conns has made my days much more peaceful. My son is a follower and girlie is jealous and controlling, she has caused him to cut ties with all of his friends. Some were helping him to get his life together. I called the police to stop her harassment so at least that has stopped. Your son's pleas for help and money will probably get worse, until he understands that when you say no you mean it. It's hard, they are our children, but my health began to suffer and I feel I have a right to a better life. in my opinion nothing I have done over the years to help has actually helped. I never give up hope that my son will turn his life around, I just don't hold my breath waiting for it. There are many programs out there for them when they are ready to help themselves. If I had all of the money I have spent trying to help my son I could go on a vacation of a lifetime lol!!! I am lucky that there are no children - they would only be used as pawns against me. Read all of the many books out there, it does help, and reading the posts here, the members on this forum are wonderful. I mediate, pray, exercise, keep busy with hobbies, forgive my self, turn things over to my HP as much as I can. My hubby of 14 years is not his father so he is not as emotionally attached with my problem. I have had some family members criticize my decisions, so I don't discuss things with them. I never in a million years believed I would be in this situation at my age (60), I had always believed my son would out grow this and become a responsible member of society. The heartbreak can be overwhelming and consume your life, if you let it, that is the one thing you can control, they are out of our hands. I know so many people that have grown unemployed adults sleeping on their sofa, I refuse to do it any more. (((hugs and blessings for you and yours))) [/QUOTE]
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