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It's A New Week, Mikey...How's It Going?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 60946" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Hi all. Thanks for asking.</p><p></p><p>Trying to lay low a bit, not inflame any situations, and get through until Thursday evening when we have our first "family session" with the docs at the medical study.</p><p></p><p>So far, McWeedy seems to be laying low as well. Answers his phone, doesn't break curfew, etc. He did ask to sleep over - twice - during his grounding. He got an immediate "NO", which he didn't fight - and was home either early or on time. Guess he was just testing the boundaries.</p><p></p><p>I also had to take his car away from him on Saturday. He'd left work early, didn't tell anyone, and I caught his car parked over at Hookah Heaven. He tried to explain, but I didn't let him - just asked for the keys. He didn't fight it, and just handed them over. Didn't ask for it back until yesterday, which is when he would have gotten it back anyway.</p><p></p><p>McWeedy <strong><em>seems</em></strong> to be adjusting to having rules to follow, but then again, he's fooled me before. Not letting my guard down, because it's entirely likely he's found some new way to act out that (a) doesn't involve his car, (b) doesn't involve breaking the rules (at least the ones we can enforce), and (c) doesn't involve anything we can "detect" when he comes home.</p><p></p><p>I would say that I hope I'm wrong, but I know better......</p><p></p><p>Given that wife is happy to have a somewhat calm house, and that McWeedy isn't putting up much of a fuss, I'm really going to try and "keep the peace" (within reason) until Thursday. Don't know why I'm looking at that meeting as some kind of milestone, but I am. We'll see. </p><p></p><p>Mikey</p><p></p><p><u>Big P.S.</u>: I read McWeedy the riot act again for smoking, and gave him the "10 minutes between life and death" speech. That comes from his doctor, who said if he'd waited 10 more minutes to call for help when he was having his asthma attack, he probably wouldn't have made it to the phone - and I would have come home to find him dead on the floor. </p><p></p><p>When his doctor found out he was smoking cigs and pot again, he was pretty upset, and told me the "10 minutes" story - and told me to pass it on to the Doobster. Guess it got to him, because he asked to go back on Chantix (again) to stop the cigs (again). Feeling somewhat snarky, I said "you can pay the hundred bucks this month for it". Shock and awe. "I want to quit smoking, <strong>you</strong> want me to quit smoking, and you want me to pay for my own drugs?" "Yep. You wasted two months of the prescription, stopped taking the pills, and started smoking again. I want you to stop, but why should I spend <em>another</em> 100 bucks when you threw away the progress you'd made after the first round of treatment? How do I know that you're going to do any better this time around? Am I wasting my money - again?"</p><p></p><p>More shock, more awe. Finally, "I don't have the money, and I still owe you a lot that I'm trying to pay off. How can I possibly pay for the medications?". <strong>FINALLY!</strong> He now sees it from my side, at least somewhat. I finally relented and bought the drugs, but told him that I wasn't going to baby him and force him to take them. If he didn't take them, then I was going to tack the cost of the prescription back onto his IOU tab. Same if he keeps smoking despite the drugs.</p><p></p><p>We'll see how this goes.</p><p></p><p>Mikey (again)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 60946, member: 3579"] Hi all. Thanks for asking. Trying to lay low a bit, not inflame any situations, and get through until Thursday evening when we have our first "family session" with the docs at the medical study. So far, McWeedy seems to be laying low as well. Answers his phone, doesn't break curfew, etc. He did ask to sleep over - twice - during his grounding. He got an immediate "NO", which he didn't fight - and was home either early or on time. Guess he was just testing the boundaries. I also had to take his car away from him on Saturday. He'd left work early, didn't tell anyone, and I caught his car parked over at Hookah Heaven. He tried to explain, but I didn't let him - just asked for the keys. He didn't fight it, and just handed them over. Didn't ask for it back until yesterday, which is when he would have gotten it back anyway. McWeedy [b][i]seems[/i][/b] to be adjusting to having rules to follow, but then again, he's fooled me before. Not letting my guard down, because it's entirely likely he's found some new way to act out that (a) doesn't involve his car, (b) doesn't involve breaking the rules (at least the ones we can enforce), and (c) doesn't involve anything we can "detect" when he comes home. I would say that I hope I'm wrong, but I know better...... Given that wife is happy to have a somewhat calm house, and that McWeedy isn't putting up much of a fuss, I'm really going to try and "keep the peace" (within reason) until Thursday. Don't know why I'm looking at that meeting as some kind of milestone, but I am. We'll see. Mikey <u>Big P.S.</u>: I read McWeedy the riot act again for smoking, and gave him the "10 minutes between life and death" speech. That comes from his doctor, who said if he'd waited 10 more minutes to call for help when he was having his asthma attack, he probably wouldn't have made it to the phone - and I would have come home to find him dead on the floor. When his doctor found out he was smoking cigs and pot again, he was pretty upset, and told me the "10 minutes" story - and told me to pass it on to the Doobster. Guess it got to him, because he asked to go back on Chantix (again) to stop the cigs (again). Feeling somewhat snarky, I said "you can pay the hundred bucks this month for it". Shock and awe. "I want to quit smoking, [b]you[/b] want me to quit smoking, and you want me to pay for my own drugs?" "Yep. You wasted two months of the prescription, stopped taking the pills, and started smoking again. I want you to stop, but why should I spend [i]another[/i] 100 bucks when you threw away the progress you'd made after the first round of treatment? How do I know that you're going to do any better this time around? Am I wasting my money - again?" More shock, more awe. Finally, "I don't have the money, and I still owe you a lot that I'm trying to pay off. How can I possibly pay for the medications?". [b]FINALLY![/b] He now sees it from my side, at least somewhat. I finally relented and bought the drugs, but told him that I wasn't going to baby him and force him to take them. If he didn't take them, then I was going to tack the cost of the prescription back onto his IOU tab. Same if he keeps smoking despite the drugs. We'll see how this goes. Mikey (again) [/QUOTE]
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