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<blockquote data-quote="addie" data-source="post: 263857" data-attributes="member: 140"><p>Hello again:</p><p> </p><p>I think I'll go straight into the saga, and respond to everyone's news at another time ... later tonight. I'm watching my f/difficult children (three 12 yo girls) out of the window.</p><p>I tried to do a profile or signature but it didn't 'take' so, briefly:</p><p>Adoptees: David, now 22.</p><p>Chrissie: now 20. ODD and daughter.</p><p>Jess: 18, a true blue CDer (sigh). The genuine article.</p><p> </p><p>Some background I discovered which helps to understand the whole thing ... there is a city here (from whence my girls were adopted) which had a very large mental health centre, and most of the population was re-housed into the general population about 2 generations ago. It's in the middle of nowhere so this challenged group has remained in the same area, mixed and matched, and our social services are now dealing with 2nd and 3rd generation children etc.</p><p> </p><p>One of my current f/children turned out to originally be from the same city, and to our surprise is a first cousin to my girls.</p><p>A baby I had for 5 days from the same city is in fact the offspring from the legal husband of my girls' bio-mom; he is not their father and she is not the mother of the baby.</p><p> </p><p>Well, Jess, who had a diagnosis of CD when I had her assessed at 12 (which I refused to believe) was and is of course CD. I could write a book about her (and perhaps I will write a book about them all some day) but the end gradually came, over 2-3 years, when she got extremely physical with me. The police were called quite a few times. Towards the end she held me hostage in the bathroom for half an hour and 'beat me up', over and over. Also threatened me with a hammer and made death threats. I had a broken nose and a tooth knocked out.</p><p> </p><p>I have to admit that all the time this behaviour was going on, I was a stereotypical 'abused wife'. I could only call the police when it was actually happening (never afterwards) and they would come and I would not lay charges. This was my BABY, the child who slept with me (refused to leave my bed ) from 2 years old to 12 years old. She is tiny but has insane strength.</p><p> </p><p>Sometimes I thought of you ... just in the context that if it was happening to someone else on the CD board, I would have given advice which I myself was not following. </p><p> </p><p>(I am going to send this as it hurts to write about it and I don't want to lose it and have to do it again, and the kidlets want feeding. To be continued ....)</p><p> addie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="addie, post: 263857, member: 140"] Hello again: I think I'll go straight into the saga, and respond to everyone's news at another time ... later tonight. I'm watching my f/difficult children (three 12 yo girls) out of the window. I tried to do a profile or signature but it didn't 'take' so, briefly: Adoptees: David, now 22. Chrissie: now 20. ODD and daughter. Jess: 18, a true blue CDer (sigh). The genuine article. Some background I discovered which helps to understand the whole thing ... there is a city here (from whence my girls were adopted) which had a very large mental health centre, and most of the population was re-housed into the general population about 2 generations ago. It's in the middle of nowhere so this challenged group has remained in the same area, mixed and matched, and our social services are now dealing with 2nd and 3rd generation children etc. One of my current f/children turned out to originally be from the same city, and to our surprise is a first cousin to my girls. A baby I had for 5 days from the same city is in fact the offspring from the legal husband of my girls' bio-mom; he is not their father and she is not the mother of the baby. Well, Jess, who had a diagnosis of CD when I had her assessed at 12 (which I refused to believe) was and is of course CD. I could write a book about her (and perhaps I will write a book about them all some day) but the end gradually came, over 2-3 years, when she got extremely physical with me. The police were called quite a few times. Towards the end she held me hostage in the bathroom for half an hour and 'beat me up', over and over. Also threatened me with a hammer and made death threats. I had a broken nose and a tooth knocked out. I have to admit that all the time this behaviour was going on, I was a stereotypical 'abused wife'. I could only call the police when it was actually happening (never afterwards) and they would come and I would not lay charges. This was my BABY, the child who slept with me (refused to leave my bed ) from 2 years old to 12 years old. She is tiny but has insane strength. Sometimes I thought of you ... just in the context that if it was happening to someone else on the CD board, I would have given advice which I myself was not following. (I am going to send this as it hurts to write about it and I don't want to lose it and have to do it again, and the kidlets want feeding. To be continued ....) addie [/QUOTE]
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