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<blockquote data-quote="scaredofhim" data-source="post: 679145" data-attributes="member: 17051"><p>Thanks for your replies pigless in VA and SomewhereOutThere. Yes he does have access to video games at our home and he is seriously addicted to them. That is all he does when he is here. H plays them from early in the morning and half the night. If you try and take away access he gets violent. He has threatened to kill his BM on numerous occasions, he has made veiled threats to me as well. He does NOTHING around the house when he is here, doesn't pick up his clothes, doesn't clean his urine and feces off the toilet, NEVER showers when he is here. To try and get him to do anything he doesn't want to do makes him angry. He gets no exercise. He's been hospitalized in the psychiatric ward twice. He eats, sleeps and plays video games and is reclusive. That is his life. His social anxiety is severe which is why he doesn't want to go to school. That and the fact that he is lazy, and so video game addicted that he actually has anxiety when he is away from the games. He never wants to go anywhere because that means leaving his games. I can understand my husband wanting to try and fix him, but he is totally beyond what parenting can do. BM stopped taking him to therapy at his child psychologist because he didn't want to go. He sees his psychiatrist once a month but just to get medication refills...no talk therapy is done by the Dr. And he is not even taking his medications any longer. He refuses to take them. I am afraid of this child and I will admit I do not like him. But I have always treated him with kindness despite my feelings. My husband and I have only been married five years but I have always treated his son well when he is here. But the child has gotten worse since I first met him. If husband were to bring him here to live with us, it would not change his behavior at all. He would still refuse to go to school and I would be the one to deal with that because husband goes to work very early. And I have no desire to have a battle with a 6 ft tall 260 pound violent adolescent every day. This child is my husbands only child and he is mentally ill. I have raised three children of my own who are fine, responsible adults and they were very normal children. I don't think my husband realizes just how abnormal is son is, because he has nothing to compare it to. I love my husband dearly, and I would never force him to choose between me or his son. But I cannot and will not agree to SS coming here to live. I am not healthy enough or strong enough to deal with this child. I am petite, only 4 ft 10. I refuse to be put in a position where I do not feel safe in my own home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scaredofhim, post: 679145, member: 17051"] Thanks for your replies pigless in VA and SomewhereOutThere. Yes he does have access to video games at our home and he is seriously addicted to them. That is all he does when he is here. H plays them from early in the morning and half the night. If you try and take away access he gets violent. He has threatened to kill his BM on numerous occasions, he has made veiled threats to me as well. He does NOTHING around the house when he is here, doesn't pick up his clothes, doesn't clean his urine and feces off the toilet, NEVER showers when he is here. To try and get him to do anything he doesn't want to do makes him angry. He gets no exercise. He's been hospitalized in the psychiatric ward twice. He eats, sleeps and plays video games and is reclusive. That is his life. His social anxiety is severe which is why he doesn't want to go to school. That and the fact that he is lazy, and so video game addicted that he actually has anxiety when he is away from the games. He never wants to go anywhere because that means leaving his games. I can understand my husband wanting to try and fix him, but he is totally beyond what parenting can do. BM stopped taking him to therapy at his child psychologist because he didn't want to go. He sees his psychiatrist once a month but just to get medication refills...no talk therapy is done by the Dr. And he is not even taking his medications any longer. He refuses to take them. I am afraid of this child and I will admit I do not like him. But I have always treated him with kindness despite my feelings. My husband and I have only been married five years but I have always treated his son well when he is here. But the child has gotten worse since I first met him. If husband were to bring him here to live with us, it would not change his behavior at all. He would still refuse to go to school and I would be the one to deal with that because husband goes to work very early. And I have no desire to have a battle with a 6 ft tall 260 pound violent adolescent every day. This child is my husbands only child and he is mentally ill. I have raised three children of my own who are fine, responsible adults and they were very normal children. I don't think my husband realizes just how abnormal is son is, because he has nothing to compare it to. I love my husband dearly, and I would never force him to choose between me or his son. But I cannot and will not agree to SS coming here to live. I am not healthy enough or strong enough to deal with this child. I am petite, only 4 ft 10. I refuse to be put in a position where I do not feel safe in my own home. [/QUOTE]
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