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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 679204" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>I agree that you are in the unenviable position of being a step-mother. This situation was not created in a day. It's been allowed to continue for years. For starters, I never allowed Ferb to play video games on days he did not attend school. When Ferb had medication to take, the first thing I would have removed from him would have been video games.</p><p></p><p>Essentially, this child's life is all topsy turvey. He's running the show, and he is content to hide in his filthy, fake little world. He has a very sad life actually. But this situation is not of your making, and it isn't up to you to tackle the big issues that his parents have not.</p><p></p><p>I do recommend that you get a copy of the book <u>Unplugged</u> by Ryan Van Cleave. The video game addiction is one piece of the puzzle that is this boy, but there are multiple issues with him. I suspect that he may have difficulty learning in traditional ways and may struggle with the material at school.</p><p></p><p>We had a large 15 year old join our class in November. The first few days at school he was sullen and angry and drew knives on his arm. He talked constantly about all the fights he has been in. (Some of which are probably true.) As we worked with him, we realized that he cannot read. AT ALL. Imagine being in 8th grade and not being able to read. We are working with him, helping him to learn the material with reading assistance from us, and my coworker spends time every day reading to him. Underneath that macho, angry façade was a scared, hurt kid who needed guidance. Every day he does a tiny bit better.</p><p></p><p> I hope for your step-son's sake that someone is able to find a way to reach the boy hiding inside him. And beware of the dragon guarding the cave.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 679204, member: 11832"] I agree that you are in the unenviable position of being a step-mother. This situation was not created in a day. It's been allowed to continue for years. For starters, I never allowed Ferb to play video games on days he did not attend school. When Ferb had medication to take, the first thing I would have removed from him would have been video games. Essentially, this child's life is all topsy turvey. He's running the show, and he is content to hide in his filthy, fake little world. He has a very sad life actually. But this situation is not of your making, and it isn't up to you to tackle the big issues that his parents have not. I do recommend that you get a copy of the book [U]Unplugged[/U] by Ryan Van Cleave. The video game addiction is one piece of the puzzle that is this boy, but there are multiple issues with him. I suspect that he may have difficulty learning in traditional ways and may struggle with the material at school. We had a large 15 year old join our class in November. The first few days at school he was sullen and angry and drew knives on his arm. He talked constantly about all the fights he has been in. (Some of which are probably true.) As we worked with him, we realized that he cannot read. AT ALL. Imagine being in 8th grade and not being able to read. We are working with him, helping him to learn the material with reading assistance from us, and my coworker spends time every day reading to him. Underneath that macho, angry façade was a scared, hurt kid who needed guidance. Every day he does a tiny bit better. I hope for your step-son's sake that someone is able to find a way to reach the boy hiding inside him. And beware of the dragon guarding the cave. [/QUOTE]
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