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It's Christmas Eve here and I'm crying...
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<blockquote data-quote="MissLulu" data-source="post: 754486" data-attributes="member: 24721"><p>Merry Christmas everyone! Thank you so much to everyone who replied and apologies for taking so long to come back to you. I was caught up in the madness of Christmas yesterday and didn't get on here at all.</p><p></p><p>Christmas Eve and Christmas Day both went off okay. My Difficult Child arrived on time for both events and was pleasant to everyone - even bringing small gifts for us all. So it was a good result.</p><p></p><p>We leave here on Monday for Malaysia and I'm praying nothing happens between now and then to prevent our trip. Earlier this year we were booked to go on an extended holiday with our youngest son (16) and three days before we left our Difficult Child got into some serious legal difficulties, which threatened to delay (or even cancel) our trip. He strongly denied any wrong doing and because of the crowd he was hanging out with at the time (all drug users) we had no idea what the actual truth was. In the end we went and left him to deal with the consequences on his own. (We did loan him money for a lawyer, which he has since repaid). Even though we went on our trip and had a reasonably good time, the fear of what might be happening back home, and the guilt of leaving him with it, hung over our heads the whole time. In the end, nothing came of the matter - no charges were ever laid - but almost a year later I still live in fear of this matter coming up again, or a new problem coming to light.</p><p></p><p>I know I'm ruminating, and honestly I do try to get past this and live in the present as much as possible. I don't know, maybe it's the holiday season, but despite all the good signs from him at the moment I am feeling very low. I think it's because I fear this is the calm before the storm. There's always something with him. It's been that way his whole life. It's just that now he's an adult I have no control over what happens. Even though I know this, it's hard not to feel somehow responsible for any bad choices he might make.</p><p></p><p>Please pray for us that we get to take our other kids on this holiday. We all really need a break from him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MissLulu, post: 754486, member: 24721"] Merry Christmas everyone! Thank you so much to everyone who replied and apologies for taking so long to come back to you. I was caught up in the madness of Christmas yesterday and didn't get on here at all. Christmas Eve and Christmas Day both went off okay. My Difficult Child arrived on time for both events and was pleasant to everyone - even bringing small gifts for us all. So it was a good result. We leave here on Monday for Malaysia and I'm praying nothing happens between now and then to prevent our trip. Earlier this year we were booked to go on an extended holiday with our youngest son (16) and three days before we left our Difficult Child got into some serious legal difficulties, which threatened to delay (or even cancel) our trip. He strongly denied any wrong doing and because of the crowd he was hanging out with at the time (all drug users) we had no idea what the actual truth was. In the end we went and left him to deal with the consequences on his own. (We did loan him money for a lawyer, which he has since repaid). Even though we went on our trip and had a reasonably good time, the fear of what might be happening back home, and the guilt of leaving him with it, hung over our heads the whole time. In the end, nothing came of the matter - no charges were ever laid - but almost a year later I still live in fear of this matter coming up again, or a new problem coming to light. I know I'm ruminating, and honestly I do try to get past this and live in the present as much as possible. I don't know, maybe it's the holiday season, but despite all the good signs from him at the moment I am feeling very low. I think it's because I fear this is the calm before the storm. There's always something with him. It's been that way his whole life. It's just that now he's an adult I have no control over what happens. Even though I know this, it's hard not to feel somehow responsible for any bad choices he might make. Please pray for us that we get to take our other kids on this holiday. We all really need a break from him. [/QUOTE]
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