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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 638577" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That and also the fact, that most of the troubled kids do get over it before they are forty and before their parents are at nursing homes. All the statistic indicate that most young people with even serious issues get back to their feet in some way. If you have a forty year old still going that same old merry-go-round it is likely it didn't happen to you, but if you have a 19-year-old in trouble, it still is likely to happen to you.</p><p></p><p>Most drug users and alcoholics recover in 15 year time. Most people who end up in prison don't end up there again or only once or twice and are out of criminal life style in twenty years (of course I know stats better from my neck of woods, almost two thirds of prisoners (and you have to do something rather terrible to end up in prison around here, just think that if you stab your spouse or buddy to death in rage you are likely to have 7 to 9 year sentence and sit half of it and second degree rape doesn't get you to prison most of the time and any thieving short of robbing a bank gets you there, so you understand that people in our prisons have certainly done some hard core crimes) do not continue their criminal behaviour after they get out. I know in USA the recidivism is higher, but almost half of your offenders don't go back either. Most people with mental illness get better, even most people with personality disorder mellow some with age (and most with Borderline (BPD) don't meet the criteria after ten years of the diagnose.) Most kids with conduct disorder recover and don't develop personality disorders.</p><p></p><p>When you have a troubled 19-year-old, it doesn't mean you will also have a troubled 40-year-old 21 years later. You might, but most of the time you will not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 638577, member: 14557"] That and also the fact, that most of the troubled kids do get over it before they are forty and before their parents are at nursing homes. All the statistic indicate that most young people with even serious issues get back to their feet in some way. If you have a forty year old still going that same old merry-go-round it is likely it didn't happen to you, but if you have a 19-year-old in trouble, it still is likely to happen to you. Most drug users and alcoholics recover in 15 year time. Most people who end up in prison don't end up there again or only once or twice and are out of criminal life style in twenty years (of course I know stats better from my neck of woods, almost two thirds of prisoners (and you have to do something rather terrible to end up in prison around here, just think that if you stab your spouse or buddy to death in rage you are likely to have 7 to 9 year sentence and sit half of it and second degree rape doesn't get you to prison most of the time and any thieving short of robbing a bank gets you there, so you understand that people in our prisons have certainly done some hard core crimes) do not continue their criminal behaviour after they get out. I know in USA the recidivism is higher, but almost half of your offenders don't go back either. Most people with mental illness get better, even most people with personality disorder mellow some with age (and most with Borderline (BPD) don't meet the criteria after ten years of the diagnose.) Most kids with conduct disorder recover and don't develop personality disorders. When you have a troubled 19-year-old, it doesn't mean you will also have a troubled 40-year-old 21 years later. You might, but most of the time you will not. [/QUOTE]
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