klmno
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I was out of town a week ago for work (not this past week), and I had forgotten about Boss's tirade the week before by the time I got back because, well, they happen so often and I have other problems so I just forget and move on. Boss seemed ok the first few days of this past work week but since I had to talk to a security officer about clearance stuff last week, I talked to one where I was out of town. He made it sound like there was a good chance my clearance would go thru this time. So even though boss seemed ok for a few days, I went ahead and updated my resume and posted it for more permanent positions in this field, then I saw the same ad on CL that I'd seen a few weeks ago, figured WTH and sent them a resume, too. They responded that evening and sent me a work behavior "test" to complete and send back. I responded that I would complete it but it would take me until the next day to get it back to them because it couldn't be completed without printing out, then scanning back in to email it back. I don't have the equipment at home. Also, I mentioned I'd be out of town for work next week. The guy emails me back and asked then could I come in for an interview Friday afternoon and just bring the completed test when I come- this was Wed. evening I think. I really needed to have a few hours Fri. afternoon to use comp time catching up with some personal business phone calls, seeing if PO was coming by house, etc, and I wasn't even sure if boss would let me take off early Fri., so I waited until Thursday to answer.
On Thursday, bboss said he would finally have time to respond to some things I needed answers about- things like what he wanted me to do about a few different projects that I don't have authority to make that sort of decision on. I had emailed him while I was out of town about this stuff but of course, even though that's what he'd told me to do, he'd never responded. So Thurs. afternoon I'm thinking everything was fine (stupid me, right?) and we start going over these projects. He was completely reasonable and rational UNTIL the other people who work around us- one being the client's rep- left for the day. Then boss decided that "I" had been hammering a dead horse and should never had brought these thingsd up again. I was calm but baffled and asked what he meant, since he'd been the one to tell me to look into it while out of town and email him about what I'd found out so he could make a decision. Then he went off about me emailing- saying he didn't have time to deal with emails. OK, I understand he's busy, that's why I hadn't puished him for an answer and had waited until he told me he had time to discuss each project. Then he says well, that's what he'd just done. I said I know, so I don't understand why you are getting mad. Then he said he wasn't. I said ok, then I'll move on to other things I need to be doing- thinking again the subject was dropped- no real answer- but never mind that. I start responding to some emails I'd gotten in and boss brings it up again. He starts going on and on about the project- why did I keep bringing it up, blah blah blah. I sat and listened and glanced at the clock periodically. Finally, he said he just didn't understand why "I" couldn't let it go and why "I" was so frustrated over tthat project. Then I raised my eyebrows a little and he said "OK, he was the one frustrated". Here I was sitting there thinking that alone was a major break through for him to even own up to his own feelings when it was more than obvious to me at that point that it was him that couldn't let the issue go. So, I calmly said "boss, I started doing something else, you brought the subject up again and have been talking about it for 45 mins now- I don't understand why you are so frustrated about me bringing it to someone's attention that there is a discrepancy in how a project was documented in two different softwares when you had nothing to do with either one and are not responsible for it". Then, he seemesd to calm down- stupid me again thinking he'd had a light bulb moment and realized he'd gotten frustrated and defensive for NOTHING. So I asked to use comp time on Friday and leave mid-morning. (This was late Thurs. afternoon.) He said that would be fine.
Don't you know, Friday morning, about an hour after everyone gets to work, he told me to tell client's rep (in front of everyone) why "I" was still so frustrated over that one project- mind you, I had moved on and never brought it up at all. I looked at boss and noticed he had a big smirk on his face. I just chuckled and said "no, I'm not worried about that project anymore and have moved on." Cleint's rep asked me to tell him what I'd been concerned about. (It was client' rep who'd told me a few weeks ago specifiaclly to bring it to his attention if I found a discrepancy.) Boss was still smirking, I said "in my perception, there is a discrepancy in what was enterred in A software and B software, however, Boss sees it differently so I'd just as soon let it go. Boss says "no, you kept bringing it up yesterday so you tell him". I was starting to get unraveled then and dropped my jaw saying "excuse me- you went off about it for 45 min after everyone else left yesterday". He denied it, of course. Client's rep said he saw no reason for anything pertaining to that project to be cause for argument. I said I agree, but remember, I'm not the one who brought it up this morning. Boss said it was clear, there was no discrepancy in the software to begin with. Client's rep started to play mediator, I was saying nothing, boss kept saying it was just me- there is no discrepancy, I looked over at boss and he's looking at me smirking again. I looked at client's rep and said "would you look at him smirking". Boss said "you're just mad because you won't let this issue rest", or something like that. I just shook my head and went back to work. Boss got up and walked off. I finished what I was doing, packed up stuff for next week out of town, went to client's rep and apologized for ever bringing subject up saying I wouldn't make that mistake again and hoped they didn't have to spend the majority of next week hearing boss talk about it (Oh- I'd already heard that boss had brought it up and had been telling client's rep that I had been making an issue over nothing but wouldn't let it go while I'd been out of town the previous week.) Anyway, then I told client's rep that boss had told me I could take comp time that day so I was leaving and couldn't tell boss because I don't know where he went. Boss comes back about that time (apparently he'd been around corner, staying within earshot.) He says "I am your immediate supervisor, if you don't like the way I do things, maybe you should just..." then he stopped. I came so close to saying "I AM" but I bit my tongue. I calmly reminded him that he'd told me I could take comp time so I was leaving and taking stuff I'd need for trip next week. He said "I perceived what you'd asked for to mean you only wanted to take the afternoon off, as in after lunch time." I looked at him and he was smirking again so I just said "well, I'm leaving now." And I left.
I think he's intentionally trying to drive me out and after adding up a few other details that I haven't gone into here, it appears that since he knew client's rep liked me, he was going to work on trying to get that rep not to like me so much before it happened. And it's working. Clearly, boss wouldn't let that issue go while I was out of town before, Thurs. afternoon, nor Fri.morning but some how, he has everyone convinced that it's me that won't let it go- even though he kept bringing it up.
I figured I'd get a phone call or mail saying I was fired before I leave to go out of town Mon. am. I haven't gotten one yet, but it could happen Mon., I guess.
My interview went pretty good I think but I don't know if I'll get the job. It's in my "real" career, which I haven't worked in, in about 2 years.The pay is what I'd been used to before my world started crashing with difficult child issues. The only thing is that I really wanted to get a permanent position with this client's agency. I was hoping to make things hang on until clearance question was answered. Boss seems adamant in making sure that doesn't happen- by his actions at least.
These people I interviewed with are supposed to get back to me early next week. Please send board strength and juju. I'd love to email boss a resignation letter Mon or Tues. Ofg course he probably won't bother opening the email but the people I'll have to copy- like owner of company- will read it.
On Thursday, bboss said he would finally have time to respond to some things I needed answers about- things like what he wanted me to do about a few different projects that I don't have authority to make that sort of decision on. I had emailed him while I was out of town about this stuff but of course, even though that's what he'd told me to do, he'd never responded. So Thurs. afternoon I'm thinking everything was fine (stupid me, right?) and we start going over these projects. He was completely reasonable and rational UNTIL the other people who work around us- one being the client's rep- left for the day. Then boss decided that "I" had been hammering a dead horse and should never had brought these thingsd up again. I was calm but baffled and asked what he meant, since he'd been the one to tell me to look into it while out of town and email him about what I'd found out so he could make a decision. Then he went off about me emailing- saying he didn't have time to deal with emails. OK, I understand he's busy, that's why I hadn't puished him for an answer and had waited until he told me he had time to discuss each project. Then he says well, that's what he'd just done. I said I know, so I don't understand why you are getting mad. Then he said he wasn't. I said ok, then I'll move on to other things I need to be doing- thinking again the subject was dropped- no real answer- but never mind that. I start responding to some emails I'd gotten in and boss brings it up again. He starts going on and on about the project- why did I keep bringing it up, blah blah blah. I sat and listened and glanced at the clock periodically. Finally, he said he just didn't understand why "I" couldn't let it go and why "I" was so frustrated over tthat project. Then I raised my eyebrows a little and he said "OK, he was the one frustrated". Here I was sitting there thinking that alone was a major break through for him to even own up to his own feelings when it was more than obvious to me at that point that it was him that couldn't let the issue go. So, I calmly said "boss, I started doing something else, you brought the subject up again and have been talking about it for 45 mins now- I don't understand why you are so frustrated about me bringing it to someone's attention that there is a discrepancy in how a project was documented in two different softwares when you had nothing to do with either one and are not responsible for it". Then, he seemesd to calm down- stupid me again thinking he'd had a light bulb moment and realized he'd gotten frustrated and defensive for NOTHING. So I asked to use comp time on Friday and leave mid-morning. (This was late Thurs. afternoon.) He said that would be fine.
Don't you know, Friday morning, about an hour after everyone gets to work, he told me to tell client's rep (in front of everyone) why "I" was still so frustrated over that one project- mind you, I had moved on and never brought it up at all. I looked at boss and noticed he had a big smirk on his face. I just chuckled and said "no, I'm not worried about that project anymore and have moved on." Cleint's rep asked me to tell him what I'd been concerned about. (It was client' rep who'd told me a few weeks ago specifiaclly to bring it to his attention if I found a discrepancy.) Boss was still smirking, I said "in my perception, there is a discrepancy in what was enterred in A software and B software, however, Boss sees it differently so I'd just as soon let it go. Boss says "no, you kept bringing it up yesterday so you tell him". I was starting to get unraveled then and dropped my jaw saying "excuse me- you went off about it for 45 min after everyone else left yesterday". He denied it, of course. Client's rep said he saw no reason for anything pertaining to that project to be cause for argument. I said I agree, but remember, I'm not the one who brought it up this morning. Boss said it was clear, there was no discrepancy in the software to begin with. Client's rep started to play mediator, I was saying nothing, boss kept saying it was just me- there is no discrepancy, I looked over at boss and he's looking at me smirking again. I looked at client's rep and said "would you look at him smirking". Boss said "you're just mad because you won't let this issue rest", or something like that. I just shook my head and went back to work. Boss got up and walked off. I finished what I was doing, packed up stuff for next week out of town, went to client's rep and apologized for ever bringing subject up saying I wouldn't make that mistake again and hoped they didn't have to spend the majority of next week hearing boss talk about it (Oh- I'd already heard that boss had brought it up and had been telling client's rep that I had been making an issue over nothing but wouldn't let it go while I'd been out of town the previous week.) Anyway, then I told client's rep that boss had told me I could take comp time that day so I was leaving and couldn't tell boss because I don't know where he went. Boss comes back about that time (apparently he'd been around corner, staying within earshot.) He says "I am your immediate supervisor, if you don't like the way I do things, maybe you should just..." then he stopped. I came so close to saying "I AM" but I bit my tongue. I calmly reminded him that he'd told me I could take comp time so I was leaving and taking stuff I'd need for trip next week. He said "I perceived what you'd asked for to mean you only wanted to take the afternoon off, as in after lunch time." I looked at him and he was smirking again so I just said "well, I'm leaving now." And I left.
I think he's intentionally trying to drive me out and after adding up a few other details that I haven't gone into here, it appears that since he knew client's rep liked me, he was going to work on trying to get that rep not to like me so much before it happened. And it's working. Clearly, boss wouldn't let that issue go while I was out of town before, Thurs. afternoon, nor Fri.morning but some how, he has everyone convinced that it's me that won't let it go- even though he kept bringing it up.
I figured I'd get a phone call or mail saying I was fired before I leave to go out of town Mon. am. I haven't gotten one yet, but it could happen Mon., I guess.
My interview went pretty good I think but I don't know if I'll get the job. It's in my "real" career, which I haven't worked in, in about 2 years.The pay is what I'd been used to before my world started crashing with difficult child issues. The only thing is that I really wanted to get a permanent position with this client's agency. I was hoping to make things hang on until clearance question was answered. Boss seems adamant in making sure that doesn't happen- by his actions at least.
These people I interviewed with are supposed to get back to me early next week. Please send board strength and juju. I'd love to email boss a resignation letter Mon or Tues. Ofg course he probably won't bother opening the email but the people I'll have to copy- like owner of company- will read it.
- you have got to unload that boss! 
