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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 675196" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>I do like her. She's very young...just a few months over 18...but she seems to have a good head on her shoulders. She told me once that this was my son's last chance...so hopefully he realizes he has to step up his game. I think he has really. Maybe. I don't actually see what's going on of course, but they still do seem happy. </p><p></p><p>She makes fun of him at times for asking his "mommy" to do stuff for him. He needs that push. He loves to make people do stuff for him, pretending he can't figure out how to do things. Perfect example, I bought them this film you put over windows to seal out drafts; double stick tape and them shrink wrap it with a hair dryer. He was all about, "Well, how does this work? What about the mini-blind? What do you do with the AC cord? I don't get it." The girlfriend said, "I'm sure we can figure it out. You don't need your mommy to do it for you!" No doubt in my mind he not only could have figured it out but probably had a pretty good idea already. I mean, this isn't rocket science and he's a very bright kid. He simply is used to pretending to be helpless, so Mommy will just step in and do it. I admit, that's been a problem. I've done stuff like that his whole life. It took a while for me to recognize that.</p><p></p><p>She's had an "interesting" upbringing. She's talked a bit about her mother, and not in glowing terms. Apparently that whole side of the family (mom, brother, grandma) live on SSI, and she thinks at least her brother and mom could find some form of work, but are lazy. It's actually good I think, that she doesn't approve of lazy...keeps my kid in line a bit. She does realize he's lazy too. She and her mom had one heck of a falling out over her mom basically expecting her to support her since she had a job. Still, she is worried about them. It's clear she loves them very much. Her father is, unsurprisingly, NOT yet ready to accept my son. Her invite to Christmas at his house was followed by "That Boyfriend of yours is NOT invited." I can't blame him. I'd probably feel the same way. I keep telling her and my son that, if they stay together and he treats her right and makes her happy, her dad will come around. I hope so...would be better for her. </p><p></p><p>So, in short, yeah. I think she's a good influence so far. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 675196, member: 17309"] I do like her. She's very young...just a few months over 18...but she seems to have a good head on her shoulders. She told me once that this was my son's last chance...so hopefully he realizes he has to step up his game. I think he has really. Maybe. I don't actually see what's going on of course, but they still do seem happy. She makes fun of him at times for asking his "mommy" to do stuff for him. He needs that push. He loves to make people do stuff for him, pretending he can't figure out how to do things. Perfect example, I bought them this film you put over windows to seal out drafts; double stick tape and them shrink wrap it with a hair dryer. He was all about, "Well, how does this work? What about the mini-blind? What do you do with the AC cord? I don't get it." The girlfriend said, "I'm sure we can figure it out. You don't need your mommy to do it for you!" No doubt in my mind he not only could have figured it out but probably had a pretty good idea already. I mean, this isn't rocket science and he's a very bright kid. He simply is used to pretending to be helpless, so Mommy will just step in and do it. I admit, that's been a problem. I've done stuff like that his whole life. It took a while for me to recognize that. She's had an "interesting" upbringing. She's talked a bit about her mother, and not in glowing terms. Apparently that whole side of the family (mom, brother, grandma) live on SSI, and she thinks at least her brother and mom could find some form of work, but are lazy. It's actually good I think, that she doesn't approve of lazy...keeps my kid in line a bit. She does realize he's lazy too. She and her mom had one heck of a falling out over her mom basically expecting her to support her since she had a job. Still, she is worried about them. It's clear she loves them very much. Her father is, unsurprisingly, NOT yet ready to accept my son. Her invite to Christmas at his house was followed by "That Boyfriend of yours is NOT invited." I can't blame him. I'd probably feel the same way. I keep telling her and my son that, if they stay together and he treats her right and makes her happy, her dad will come around. I hope so...would be better for her. So, in short, yeah. I think she's a good influence so far. :) [/QUOTE]
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