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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 691872" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Cop a, if it were me, I know I would have said, "the cat is sleeping with Son from now on. It will be good for both. As for the Windows, I didn't even notice. Since it bothers you, just close the Windows." I am direct and say what I mean. It works with my husband. I have been thrown around enough in my life. Not happening in my personal life. I don't YELL things at hubby, but I don't ask permission about little things like that. I just say it. And if hub complains about something around the house and it bothers him but now t me, I may decide to do it myself or, if I think it's so something ill forget about, I will say,"if you don't do it, I will probably forget so...it's up to you."</p><p></p><p>I used to freak out at every criticism, but I learned that half of what I thought was criticism really was not. I'm happier since those bad mood days!</p><p></p><p>M just sounds fussy and sounds like you overreacted and took on unnecessary shame. It is not your role to please him in every way nor take it out on your son. I don't think M is abusive, just a bit bossy. Common in men. But women have more power now and we can state our wants and needs right back. You can disagree in some things, stick up for yourself, and stay together and still have a good relationship.</p><p></p><p>Same at work. Blow off the mean people if you can. In the end, they are strangers to you. Thankfully!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 691872, member: 1550"] Cop a, if it were me, I know I would have said, "the cat is sleeping with Son from now on. It will be good for both. As for the Windows, I didn't even notice. Since it bothers you, just close the Windows." I am direct and say what I mean. It works with my husband. I have been thrown around enough in my life. Not happening in my personal life. I don't YELL things at hubby, but I don't ask permission about little things like that. I just say it. And if hub complains about something around the house and it bothers him but now t me, I may decide to do it myself or, if I think it's so something ill forget about, I will say,"if you don't do it, I will probably forget so...it's up to you." I used to freak out at every criticism, but I learned that half of what I thought was criticism really was not. I'm happier since those bad mood days! M just sounds fussy and sounds like you overreacted and took on unnecessary shame. It is not your role to please him in every way nor take it out on your son. I don't think M is abusive, just a bit bossy. Common in men. But women have more power now and we can state our wants and needs right back. You can disagree in some things, stick up for yourself, and stay together and still have a good relationship. Same at work. Blow off the mean people if you can. In the end, they are strangers to you. Thankfully!!! [/QUOTE]
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