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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 744908" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>So of course that didn't last, but I am determined that I will get through the rest of the holiday season intact and not give him the power to destroy it. He came by on his way to work and apparently something had crawled up him lower digestive tract and made its way all the way up to his shoulder in the form of the proverbial chip. Could have everything, something, or nothing at all to do with me. I didn't ask, didn't acknowledge whatsoever that it seemed to me like he was trying to pick fights on just about everything. At one point we were both in the kitchen, and he said something that sounded argumentative so rather than take the bait I calmly walked (Walked) out of the room. He said I stormed out rolling my eyes and throwing my hands up in the air because I didn't want to hear what he was saying. (Not true) So i calmly apologized...his response to that was "Why are you doing this?" I said "Doing what?" Him: "Starting more drama." Hello, I didn't realize that an apology created drama...who knew? I said that all I did was apologize for "storming out" (even though I didn't storm out at all...giving him the benefit of the doubt, he could have perceived it that way." So then he said "Mom, just stop it!" Okay, whatever...I didn't say anything else. If the last word is that effing important to him, he can have it. </p><p></p><p>He made a few more attempts before he left for work but I neither took the bait or responded in any way. If he asked me something nonargumentative, such as if I knew where his Christmas coffee cup was, I answered as civilly and pleasantly as I could. And guess what. I still have my peace and calm intact. I wish I could make myself do this more often. He didn't say goodbye when he left for work, and that didn't even bother me.</p><p></p><p>I have no idea what did or did not happen to get him so worked up, and whether or not I factored in it, and he didn't share so I guess I'll never know. But this falls under the category of "it is what it is" and not worth my sanity to get into a bickering contest with him over. He didn't yell or curse or hurl insults or slam doors or anything, so I'm okay with it. Wish things could be different but they're not and likely never will be. If this was the worst it ever got I would be one happy camper.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 744908, member: 22877"] So of course that didn't last, but I am determined that I will get through the rest of the holiday season intact and not give him the power to destroy it. He came by on his way to work and apparently something had crawled up him lower digestive tract and made its way all the way up to his shoulder in the form of the proverbial chip. Could have everything, something, or nothing at all to do with me. I didn't ask, didn't acknowledge whatsoever that it seemed to me like he was trying to pick fights on just about everything. At one point we were both in the kitchen, and he said something that sounded argumentative so rather than take the bait I calmly walked (Walked) out of the room. He said I stormed out rolling my eyes and throwing my hands up in the air because I didn't want to hear what he was saying. (Not true) So i calmly apologized...his response to that was "Why are you doing this?" I said "Doing what?" Him: "Starting more drama." Hello, I didn't realize that an apology created drama...who knew? I said that all I did was apologize for "storming out" (even though I didn't storm out at all...giving him the benefit of the doubt, he could have perceived it that way." So then he said "Mom, just stop it!" Okay, whatever...I didn't say anything else. If the last word is that effing important to him, he can have it. He made a few more attempts before he left for work but I neither took the bait or responded in any way. If he asked me something nonargumentative, such as if I knew where his Christmas coffee cup was, I answered as civilly and pleasantly as I could. And guess what. I still have my peace and calm intact. I wish I could make myself do this more often. He didn't say goodbye when he left for work, and that didn't even bother me. I have no idea what did or did not happen to get him so worked up, and whether or not I factored in it, and he didn't share so I guess I'll never know. But this falls under the category of "it is what it is" and not worth my sanity to get into a bickering contest with him over. He didn't yell or curse or hurl insults or slam doors or anything, so I'm okay with it. Wish things could be different but they're not and likely never will be. If this was the worst it ever got I would be one happy camper. [/QUOTE]
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