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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 749092" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I have been in this position. I dont like Kay's husband and he clearly doesnt like us. When we see him we minimalize talking to him. I am not grateful that he puts up with Kay. I wish he would leave her, although he is her meal ticket, although not a good one.</p><p></p><p>If somebody is disagreeable it is best in my opinion not to try too hard. I dont think it works. And Lee and your daughter's boyfriend see how badly our daughters treat us so they know they can do it too. Lee often hides when we are over. We dont care, but its very rude.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter allows this boyfriend to treat you badly because it doesnt bother her that he does it. Same with my Kay and her Lee. It has to do with them (the men) and who they are, not us.</p><p></p><p>I would just be pleasant. My mama would say "just kill them with kindness" about anyone who is unkind. She also told me that I didnt have to sink to the level of unpleasant people. I do that the best I can. Its not always easy. Sometimes my jaw hurts from fake smiling. But I am not going to act like him nor am I going to beg Lee to treat us well. Our girls likely picked men as mentally ill as they are. And as unhappy and unpleasant.</p><p></p><p>Remember we can't control another person. Yes, it is hard to accept that at least for me. You did your best. HE didnt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 749092, member: 23706"] I have been in this position. I dont like Kay's husband and he clearly doesnt like us. When we see him we minimalize talking to him. I am not grateful that he puts up with Kay. I wish he would leave her, although he is her meal ticket, although not a good one. If somebody is disagreeable it is best in my opinion not to try too hard. I dont think it works. And Lee and your daughter's boyfriend see how badly our daughters treat us so they know they can do it too. Lee often hides when we are over. We dont care, but its very rude. Your daughter allows this boyfriend to treat you badly because it doesnt bother her that he does it. Same with my Kay and her Lee. It has to do with them (the men) and who they are, not us. I would just be pleasant. My mama would say "just kill them with kindness" about anyone who is unkind. She also told me that I didnt have to sink to the level of unpleasant people. I do that the best I can. Its not always easy. Sometimes my jaw hurts from fake smiling. But I am not going to act like him nor am I going to beg Lee to treat us well. Our girls likely picked men as mentally ill as they are. And as unhappy and unpleasant. Remember we can't control another person. Yes, it is hard to accept that at least for me. You did your best. HE didnt. [/QUOTE]
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