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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 744053" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Waking, your kid sounds like ... me. I was diagnosed Aspergers in my 30s (now rolled in with high functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)). I didn’t have a friend until my junior year of high school. I WAS bullied and teased a lot, so if your son has avoided that and engages in mostly fine interactions with peers, in my book he’s doing great. </p><p></p><p>I have a grandson that fits this profile, too. He’s smart and curious and pleasant and eager to please and just not very people oriented. As far as I’m concerned he’s perfect. He has a lot to add to the world with his unique gifts. If some coach treated him this way I would be furious! </p><p></p><p>It really doesn’t matter whether he has a diagnosis or not. This coach sounds incredibly insensitive and unempathetic for a counselor. Even if you kid does not have a diagnosis, it’s not hard to recognize that when a sensitive, mostly obedient kid suddenly balks at something there is something more going on than simple defiance. I think you are right to push back and defend your kid. </p><p></p><p>On a side note, it might be worth exploring a diagnosis, or exploring the idea of testing with him, and see how he feels about it. Carefully - you don’t want to suggest that you think there is something wrong with him if he’s doing mostly ok - but I can tell you it was a HUGE relief when I was diagnosed. It explained so much about my life and helped me see myself as ‘different’ rather than ‘broken’. And he may find that he could use some services - or at least a little more understanding - when he gets to high school. </p><p></p><p>On another note, it took me a while to get here, but I really like myself and where I am in life now. (Well, except for the problems that brought me here.) I have a great (also quiet and introverted) partner and a small group of friends who get me and make me happy. I’m a homebody, and work from home, and I’m sure my life doesn’t look very exciting from the outside, but it works for me!</p><p></p><p> It sounds like you’ve already given your son a great foundation for self acceptance. Keep it up! Keep advocating for your kid!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 744053, member: 23349"] Waking, your kid sounds like ... me. I was diagnosed Aspergers in my 30s (now rolled in with high functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)). I didn’t have a friend until my junior year of high school. I WAS bullied and teased a lot, so if your son has avoided that and engages in mostly fine interactions with peers, in my book he’s doing great. I have a grandson that fits this profile, too. He’s smart and curious and pleasant and eager to please and just not very people oriented. As far as I’m concerned he’s perfect. He has a lot to add to the world with his unique gifts. If some coach treated him this way I would be furious! It really doesn’t matter whether he has a diagnosis or not. This coach sounds incredibly insensitive and unempathetic for a counselor. Even if you kid does not have a diagnosis, it’s not hard to recognize that when a sensitive, mostly obedient kid suddenly balks at something there is something more going on than simple defiance. I think you are right to push back and defend your kid. On a side note, it might be worth exploring a diagnosis, or exploring the idea of testing with him, and see how he feels about it. Carefully - you don’t want to suggest that you think there is something wrong with him if he’s doing mostly ok - but I can tell you it was a HUGE relief when I was diagnosed. It explained so much about my life and helped me see myself as ‘different’ rather than ‘broken’. And he may find that he could use some services - or at least a little more understanding - when he gets to high school. On another note, it took me a while to get here, but I really like myself and where I am in life now. (Well, except for the problems that brought me here.) I have a great (also quiet and introverted) partner and a small group of friends who get me and make me happy. I’m a homebody, and work from home, and I’m sure my life doesn’t look very exciting from the outside, but it works for me! It sounds like you’ve already given your son a great foundation for self acceptance. Keep it up! Keep advocating for your kid! [/QUOTE]
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