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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 744145" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>This might be an interesting place to start: google ‘Aspie Quiz’ (for some reason it will not let me post here)</p><p></p><p>This is NOT a formal diagnosis - consider it for "edutainment" and exploration purposes only. But it IS research-based. (Ignore the poor design of the page - this is a self-built page by students and researchers, not a slick professional site.) You take the quiz (it takes a bit of time) and you get a visual that shows you how "Aspie" vs. "Neurotypical" you are on several scales, including perception, communication, relationships, cognition and social skills. Your visual will look a little like a spider web. And then it breaks down your scores in each area, showing whether you are more "Aspie-like" or more neurotypical. It might be fun to take this WITH your son and compare your scores - again, not in the sense that you're looking for something "wrong" with him, but in the spirit of hey-people-are-all-different-and-isnt-that-interesting.</p><p></p><p>People on the spectrum may have a great deal of empathy and simply not know how to show it appropriately. They can also appear unempathetic at times because they simply don't value the same things or think the same way as other people. I don't like small talk and don't see the point in it. I can be very transactional - I like to get to the point in things. It would not bother me at all to have someone walk past me and fail to say hello, for example - I would simply assume they have nothing specific to say to me in that moment, not that they are shunning me. But I've learned that social pleasantries are important to OTHER people, so I've learned to do them. I had to shift my perception (if there isn't anything specific to say right now why bother saying anything) to a neurotypical perception (people use these little transactions to demonstrate caring and build relationships, so they are important). I think I present fairly normal most of the time now! But I am sure there have been a lot of times I have been perceived as cold and uninterested when I am perceiving myself of being respectful of other people's space (by not interrupting them with a pointless greeting when they are doing something) or time (by skipping small talk and getting right to the point.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 744145, member: 23349"] This might be an interesting place to start: google ‘Aspie Quiz’ (for some reason it will not let me post here) This is NOT a formal diagnosis - consider it for "edutainment" and exploration purposes only. But it IS research-based. (Ignore the poor design of the page - this is a self-built page by students and researchers, not a slick professional site.) You take the quiz (it takes a bit of time) and you get a visual that shows you how "Aspie" vs. "Neurotypical" you are on several scales, including perception, communication, relationships, cognition and social skills. Your visual will look a little like a spider web. And then it breaks down your scores in each area, showing whether you are more "Aspie-like" or more neurotypical. It might be fun to take this WITH your son and compare your scores - again, not in the sense that you're looking for something "wrong" with him, but in the spirit of hey-people-are-all-different-and-isnt-that-interesting. People on the spectrum may have a great deal of empathy and simply not know how to show it appropriately. They can also appear unempathetic at times because they simply don't value the same things or think the same way as other people. I don't like small talk and don't see the point in it. I can be very transactional - I like to get to the point in things. It would not bother me at all to have someone walk past me and fail to say hello, for example - I would simply assume they have nothing specific to say to me in that moment, not that they are shunning me. But I've learned that social pleasantries are important to OTHER people, so I've learned to do them. I had to shift my perception (if there isn't anything specific to say right now why bother saying anything) to a neurotypical perception (people use these little transactions to demonstrate caring and build relationships, so they are important). I think I present fairly normal most of the time now! But I am sure there have been a lot of times I have been perceived as cold and uninterested when I am perceiving myself of being respectful of other people's space (by not interrupting them with a pointless greeting when they are doing something) or time (by skipping small talk and getting right to the point.) [/QUOTE]
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