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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 417915"><p>Set very firm and clear rules and punish via taking away privileges/toys (i.e., cell phone, stereo, whatever) consistently and unwaveringly.&nbsp; It sounds like he's already into ODD mode--i.e., defiant and disobedient--and probably prepared to physically resist you if you attempt to discipline him, if he hasn't begun to do so already.&nbsp; Once he crosses that line, my experience is that it's very unlikely that normal in-home efforts at discipline will work, as he will be effectively &quot;running the house&quot; via force or the threat of it, and that changes everything.&nbsp; If you're already there or you get there, you need to think about putting him in therapeutic boarding school (very expensive, though) or some other sort of different residential arrangement.&nbsp; Teen boys with ODD, once they begin to use force to resist or defy or menace a single Mom, tend to become intractable problems unless presented with discipline/restraint by someone stronger than they are--it's typically all that will contain them.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 417915"] Set very firm and clear rules and punish via taking away privileges/toys (i.e., cell phone, stereo, whatever) consistently and unwaveringly. It sounds like he's already into ODD mode--i.e., defiant and disobedient--and probably prepared to physically resist you if you attempt to discipline him, if he hasn't begun to do so already. Once he crosses that line, my experience is that it's very unlikely that normal in-home efforts at discipline will work, as he will be effectively "running the house" via force or the threat of it, and that changes everything. If you're already there or you get there, you need to think about putting him in therapeutic boarding school (very expensive, though) or some other sort of different residential arrangement. Teen boys with ODD, once they begin to use force to resist or defy or menace a single Mom, tend to become intractable problems unless presented with discipline/restraint by someone stronger than they are--it's typically all that will contain them. [/QUOTE]

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