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Just when I thought he was doing better, 17-year-old difficult child was arrested
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<blockquote data-quote="Origami" data-source="post: 638126" data-attributes="member: 18099"><p>Thanks everyone for your insight and good wishes. Today we went on a wild goose chase and finally got his belongings back that had been confiscated. I'm sure this had something to do with my son's attitude on Friday, and the police didn't mind sending him to the wrong location (1 hour drive each way to an "interesting" part of the city) before we found out that his things were at the same police station where he was arrested, which would have been a 5-minute trip. </p><p></p><p>But the drive gave us some time to talk. On one of his tirades about the evil cops, I told him it might be a good idea to keep those thoughts inside his head and not to say everything he thinks. He agreed that might be a good idea. We made two stops before we got to the right place this morning, and each time he wanted me to do the talking and ask for his things. I said, "No, it's your stuff, you can ask for it." At one point he said I was being difficult, and I said, "OK then, we'll go home without your stuff." I waited on a bench while he inquired, and he was polite and appropriate to the desk officers. I told him that he should practice speaking like that even when he doesn't feel like it.</p><p></p><p>I also told him he was being naive if he thinks the judge will just brush off his charges and not give him a fine or anything. We sort-of role played what he thought he might say to the judge if he gets a chance to speak. He started out with a bit of an attitude, and then I helped him tone it down a bit. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm hoping this is the case, Childofmine, and he gets better with age. I think he'll always be a difficult child to some degree (always has been) but maybe he can learn to be more appropriate in public, at least.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Origami, post: 638126, member: 18099"] Thanks everyone for your insight and good wishes. Today we went on a wild goose chase and finally got his belongings back that had been confiscated. I'm sure this had something to do with my son's attitude on Friday, and the police didn't mind sending him to the wrong location (1 hour drive each way to an "interesting" part of the city) before we found out that his things were at the same police station where he was arrested, which would have been a 5-minute trip. But the drive gave us some time to talk. On one of his tirades about the evil cops, I told him it might be a good idea to keep those thoughts inside his head and not to say everything he thinks. He agreed that might be a good idea. We made two stops before we got to the right place this morning, and each time he wanted me to do the talking and ask for his things. I said, "No, it's your stuff, you can ask for it." At one point he said I was being difficult, and I said, "OK then, we'll go home without your stuff." I waited on a bench while he inquired, and he was polite and appropriate to the desk officers. I told him that he should practice speaking like that even when he doesn't feel like it. I also told him he was being naive if he thinks the judge will just brush off his charges and not give him a fine or anything. We sort-of role played what he thought he might say to the judge if he gets a chance to speak. He started out with a bit of an attitude, and then I helped him tone it down a bit. I'm hoping this is the case, Childofmine, and he gets better with age. I think he'll always be a difficult child to some degree (always has been) but maybe he can learn to be more appropriate in public, at least. [/QUOTE]
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