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<blockquote data-quote="carolanne" data-source="post: 98572" data-attributes="member: 1904">Last night was awful here.&nbsp; Becky is completely over the top with her disrespect and I certainly didn't help matters by blowing up at her.&nbsp; She's been picking, picking, picking at her little sister...and keeps on until the girl is in tears and storming upstairs...Becky follows and calls her baby, whiner, sissy, etc.I sent everyone to bed early and went and laid down with my little guy, had a cuddle and a good cry.&nbsp; Once I calmed down and peewee was sleeping, I went into my bedroom and asked husband to talk.I laid it all out, how I feel like a single parent, Becky's disrespect and insults are hurting, Kate's diva-ness, two yr old stuff on top...add in Jess, and tons of other stuff and I can't do it alone any longer.He was so quet for so long...and than he said &quot;I don't want to discipline Becky because I don't want her to hate me&quot;.&nbsp; I told him the way she treats me/talks to me is trickling over into school, her babysitting job(which the lady just called and said she doesn't need her anymore), her attitude towards anyone, even store clerks....he just laid there....not a word.I left and came downstairs to tidy up...he followed a little while later and said &quot;you will have to deal with her.&nbsp; No yelling, no consequences, no limits, nothing.&nbsp; I don't want any part of this...she likes me right now and I want it to stay that way.&quot;To my way of thinking, this 40yr old man has just given a 14yr old girl permission to treat me like dirt, to do what she wants, when she wants, how she wants.I am at a total loss :crying:&nbsp; We've been married 18 yrs and to have him practically say that she is a peer is unreal.&nbsp; How the blazes do I handle this one?????Carolanne</blockquote>

[QUOTE="carolanne, post: 98572, member: 1904"] Last night was awful here. Becky is completely over the top with her disrespect and I certainly didn't help matters by blowing up at her. She's been picking, picking, picking at her little sister...and keeps on until the girl is in tears and storming upstairs...Becky follows and calls her baby, whiner, sissy, etc. I sent everyone to bed early and went and laid down with my little guy, had a cuddle and a good cry. Once I calmed down and peewee was sleeping, I went into my bedroom and asked husband to talk. I laid it all out, how I feel like a single parent, Becky's disrespect and insults are hurting, Kate's diva-ness, two yr old stuff on top...add in Jess, and tons of other stuff and I can't do it alone any longer. He was so quet for so long...and than he said "I don't want to discipline Becky because I don't want her to hate me". I told him the way she treats me/talks to me is trickling over into school, her babysitting job(which the lady just called and said she doesn't need her anymore), her attitude towards anyone, even store clerks....he just laid there....not a word. I left and came downstairs to tidy up...he followed a little while later and said "you will have to deal with her. No yelling, no consequences, no limits, nothing. I don't want any part of this...she likes me right now and I want it to stay that way." To my way of thinking, this 40yr old man has just given a 14yr old girl permission to treat me like dirt, to do what she wants, when she wants, how she wants. I am at a total loss [img]:crying:[/img] We've been married 18 yrs and to have him practically say that she is a peer is unreal. How the blazes do I handle this one????? Carolanne [/QUOTE]

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