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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 502617"><p>I didn't sprinkle baby powder on it...but I wanted to. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I thought about something I learned at Al-anon...if I try to make him feel guilty about drinking then he will respond with anger. AND...he won't feel guilty on his own. I sort of 'cheat' him out of those feelings since he really really needs. So, I try to be sweet and kind...while maintaining boundaries.</p><p></p><p>In that vein, I went to WalMart tonight and picked up a couple of treats - gummis, etc. small things he loves. I am tucking them in the laundry. It isn't enough that he can trade for beer but is enough to show love and compassion....and maybe, hopefully, give him a wee bit of guilt for his choices.</p><p></p><p>Manipulative? Yes. But not harmful in small doses and at least I get to feel like I am taking care of him in a small way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 502617"] I didn't sprinkle baby powder on it...but I wanted to. :) I thought about something I learned at Al-anon...if I try to make him feel guilty about drinking then he will respond with anger. AND...he won't feel guilty on his own. I sort of 'cheat' him out of those feelings since he really really needs. So, I try to be sweet and kind...while maintaining boundaries. In that vein, I went to WalMart tonight and picked up a couple of treats - gummis, etc. small things he loves. I am tucking them in the laundry. It isn't enough that he can trade for beer but is enough to show love and compassion....and maybe, hopefully, give him a wee bit of guilt for his choices. Manipulative? Yes. But not harmful in small doses and at least I get to feel like I am taking care of him in a small way. [/QUOTE]
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