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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 746351" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There is nothing you can do. I am sorry but its true. All the rehabs you paid for, all the motels, all the apartments you cosigned, all you did has done nothing.</p><p></p><p>If he calls to say he relapsed, he KNOWS where to go for help. He was at a place where he can get help. He knows where AA is, althought that will probably not be enough. He doesnt want to quit or he wouldnt have left so when he relapses, what CAN you do that you havent done already? What CAN you say that will motivate him?</p><p></p><p>Most of our adults who got well were finally told they are on their own and stuck to it. If he says he relapsed say "You know what to do. We cant do it for you. I love you."</p><p></p><p>So far I am not liking your therapist. Of course you see him, not me. But I would definitely let my addict know he screwed up in no uncertain terms and would speak firmly. And I think therapist is in la la land to tell you he may not relapse with his actions and history. in my opinion he should help and prepare you with coping strategies.</p><p></p><p>I am immensely sorry you, anyone, needs to goot through this crap. I do think that with addiction, the less we help, the better it is for them.</p><p></p><p>Take good care of yourself. That is the only person.you CAN care for just like only your son can care for.his wefare.</p><p></p><p>I will pray for all of you. And miracles.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 746351, member: 1550"] There is nothing you can do. I am sorry but its true. All the rehabs you paid for, all the motels, all the apartments you cosigned, all you did has done nothing. If he calls to say he relapsed, he KNOWS where to go for help. He was at a place where he can get help. He knows where AA is, althought that will probably not be enough. He doesnt want to quit or he wouldnt have left so when he relapses, what CAN you do that you havent done already? What CAN you say that will motivate him? Most of our adults who got well were finally told they are on their own and stuck to it. If he says he relapsed say "You know what to do. We cant do it for you. I love you." So far I am not liking your therapist. Of course you see him, not me. But I would definitely let my addict know he screwed up in no uncertain terms and would speak firmly. And I think therapist is in la la land to tell you he may not relapse with his actions and history. in my opinion he should help and prepare you with coping strategies. I am immensely sorry you, anyone, needs to goot through this crap. I do think that with addiction, the less we help, the better it is for them. Take good care of yourself. That is the only person.you CAN care for just like only your son can care for.his wefare. I will pray for all of you. And miracles. [/QUOTE]
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