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<blockquote data-quote="jal" data-source="post: 244572" data-attributes="member: 3477"><p>You may want to try to create a spread sheet regarding the cost of raising a child for its first year of life. My difficult child's first full year of daycare cost us $11,000 and that was in 2002. Add up diapers, formula, all the clothes, dr visits, medications if needed etc. Maybe show her on paper the actual reality of the cost of starting to raise a child and then discuss with her how she plans to pay for all of this being 15 and with no formal or at least h.s. education.</p><p></p><p>I don't know the laws regarding your actual financial/medical responsibility to the child and I don't know if a rational approach of sitting and discussing costs will help, but I think to drive home also the point that just because you have a child does not mean that that child is going to love you and make you feel what you are searching for or missing. This will be a completely defenseless infant who relies on her to get up at its becon call, feed on demand, comfort on demand and to be cared for both emotionally and financially.</p><p></p><p>It gets me so angry that girls these days so young are focused on having babies. When I was that age we girls were focused on sports, school, dating and just being a teenager. We never even thought of having a child. I never wanted kids until my bio clock started ticking around 27 and even then husband and I took a year to decide if it was right for us and we had stable jobs and a home of our own and look what life dealt us? A smart, loving difficult child who has issues. And what if she ends up with a difficult child? Is she going to run around like we all do to all the psychiatrist and therapist appts & IEP and PPT meetings. medications checks, medication costs, blood work, hospitalizations? How will she do it when she isn't even old enough to drive? (Stepping off my soap box - sorry!)</p><p></p><p>I agree with-putting her on the BC shot. Also, will she make sure that the PSD doesn't have any STD's before she decides to have unprotected relations?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jal, post: 244572, member: 3477"] You may want to try to create a spread sheet regarding the cost of raising a child for its first year of life. My difficult child's first full year of daycare cost us $11,000 and that was in 2002. Add up diapers, formula, all the clothes, dr visits, medications if needed etc. Maybe show her on paper the actual reality of the cost of starting to raise a child and then discuss with her how she plans to pay for all of this being 15 and with no formal or at least h.s. education. I don't know the laws regarding your actual financial/medical responsibility to the child and I don't know if a rational approach of sitting and discussing costs will help, but I think to drive home also the point that just because you have a child does not mean that that child is going to love you and make you feel what you are searching for or missing. This will be a completely defenseless infant who relies on her to get up at its becon call, feed on demand, comfort on demand and to be cared for both emotionally and financially. It gets me so angry that girls these days so young are focused on having babies. When I was that age we girls were focused on sports, school, dating and just being a teenager. We never even thought of having a child. I never wanted kids until my bio clock started ticking around 27 and even then husband and I took a year to decide if it was right for us and we had stable jobs and a home of our own and look what life dealt us? A smart, loving difficult child who has issues. And what if she ends up with a difficult child? Is she going to run around like we all do to all the psychiatrist and therapist appts & IEP and PPT meetings. medications checks, medication costs, blood work, hospitalizations? How will she do it when she isn't even old enough to drive? (Stepping off my soap box - sorry!) I agree with-putting her on the BC shot. Also, will she make sure that the PSD doesn't have any STD's before she decides to have unprotected relations? [/QUOTE]
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