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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 755664" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>These particular adult kids, who never really grow up, do not subscribe to our social norms nor do they agree that our rights and wrongs are theirs. I could preach about the right thing to do and the right way to live until my face turned blue and Kay would say, haughtily, "You're just a sheeple. Your ideas are so old fashion." This was after I simply told her that if she didn't work she would not have a comfortable lifestyle. Was that so out of touch and old fashion??? My other kids would not argue about this. Kay thinks her own way.</p><p></p><p>Likewise, Amy and Rick, when living with us, had no problem telling me and my husband when they would be home. They did not give details of where they went but we knew we could trust them. They never, say, stumbled in drunk or high. They respected our boundaries. </p><p></p><p>It is hard to live with adult kids who are troubled and rebellious and.not very adult like. While our requests of them are, to us and other parents and normal adult kids, quite reasonable, some of our different adult kids seem to be at war with anything normal or sane. I am with Copa. I am done fighting wars with my wayward child. I just want peace and to be with those who are loving. </p><p></p><p>It is very hard to be overly involved with non conventional people who argue with any logic we present. Or what WE feel is logical. </p><p></p><p>Some of our waywards are not as hardcore as others. My Kay as about as defiant and headstrong and unyielding as possible with ideas about the world that make as much sense as Flat Earth. I would call her extreme. Wise, your daughter seems far less resistant to helping herself. This does not mean she isn't difficult and doesn't drive you crazy! But at least she works, pays some bills and is actually finishing college. I feel there is much hope for her, even for her and you. Be proud of yourself! She IS functioning as an adult and you had some role in this.</p><p></p><p>This is difficult, but we can do this. Love and prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 755664, member: 23706"] These particular adult kids, who never really grow up, do not subscribe to our social norms nor do they agree that our rights and wrongs are theirs. I could preach about the right thing to do and the right way to live until my face turned blue and Kay would say, haughtily, "You're just a sheeple. Your ideas are so old fashion." This was after I simply told her that if she didn't work she would not have a comfortable lifestyle. Was that so out of touch and old fashion??? My other kids would not argue about this. Kay thinks her own way. Likewise, Amy and Rick, when living with us, had no problem telling me and my husband when they would be home. They did not give details of where they went but we knew we could trust them. They never, say, stumbled in drunk or high. They respected our boundaries. It is hard to live with adult kids who are troubled and rebellious and.not very adult like. While our requests of them are, to us and other parents and normal adult kids, quite reasonable, some of our different adult kids seem to be at war with anything normal or sane. I am with Copa. I am done fighting wars with my wayward child. I just want peace and to be with those who are loving. It is very hard to be overly involved with non conventional people who argue with any logic we present. Or what WE feel is logical. Some of our waywards are not as hardcore as others. My Kay as about as defiant and headstrong and unyielding as possible with ideas about the world that make as much sense as Flat Earth. I would call her extreme. Wise, your daughter seems far less resistant to helping herself. This does not mean she isn't difficult and doesn't drive you crazy! But at least she works, pays some bills and is actually finishing college. I feel there is much hope for her, even for her and you. Be proud of yourself! She IS functioning as an adult and you had some role in this. This is difficult, but we can do this. Love and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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