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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 731306" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My therapist (more than one actually) told me that aggressive language such as threatening to harm, getting into somebody's face and screaming, throwing items like ash trays and hard things and destroying property is violent behavior, just like hitting us. It scares us to death. If your son does any of the above, he is being violent. You should not let violence into your house in my opinion. Your house in my opinion is your sanctuary.</p><p></p><p>You can meet your son.more safely at busy gas stations, coffee shops, fast food places and restaurants if you feel like buying him a meal. If you help him pay at all give the funds directly to the person you are paying. Do not give your son any cash. You know he will spend it HIS way.</p><p></p><p>If you want to find him a place to stay and turn on his utilities, think about how that worked out last time. The last time is predictive of this time unless he had a real awakening and wants desperately to change. Not his words...by his actions. if you think it probably won't work, but feel obligated to try anyway, a good attitude to have in my opinion is that if it doesn't work out, at least you did your best. That is the attitude I take when I give money to somebody who is homeless. I hope they help themselves with my donation, but if they use it wrongly, I meant well and I dont stress over it.</p><p></p><p>You have the very reasonable option of forcing him to keep looking in his mail, whether he wants to or is lazy about it, to see if he got Disability and to apply for food cards and find his own shelter too. It is about YOU...what you can live with. He has already gotten more help and love from you than anyone can give to a beloved child. Now in my opinion it should be about you. Make sure you can look at yourself in the mirror. </p><p></p><p>Much love and light to a top notch mom warrior and fantastic mother who has done it all. Enjoy yourself today. Be good to you. As an animal lover thank you for loving and rescuing your son's dog.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 731306, member: 1550"] My therapist (more than one actually) told me that aggressive language such as threatening to harm, getting into somebody's face and screaming, throwing items like ash trays and hard things and destroying property is violent behavior, just like hitting us. It scares us to death. If your son does any of the above, he is being violent. You should not let violence into your house in my opinion. Your house in my opinion is your sanctuary. You can meet your son.more safely at busy gas stations, coffee shops, fast food places and restaurants if you feel like buying him a meal. If you help him pay at all give the funds directly to the person you are paying. Do not give your son any cash. You know he will spend it HIS way. If you want to find him a place to stay and turn on his utilities, think about how that worked out last time. The last time is predictive of this time unless he had a real awakening and wants desperately to change. Not his words...by his actions. if you think it probably won't work, but feel obligated to try anyway, a good attitude to have in my opinion is that if it doesn't work out, at least you did your best. That is the attitude I take when I give money to somebody who is homeless. I hope they help themselves with my donation, but if they use it wrongly, I meant well and I dont stress over it. You have the very reasonable option of forcing him to keep looking in his mail, whether he wants to or is lazy about it, to see if he got Disability and to apply for food cards and find his own shelter too. It is about YOU...what you can live with. He has already gotten more help and love from you than anyone can give to a beloved child. Now in my opinion it should be about you. Make sure you can look at yourself in the mirror. Much love and light to a top notch mom warrior and fantastic mother who has done it all. Enjoy yourself today. Be good to you. As an animal lover thank you for loving and rescuing your son's dog. [/QUOTE]
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