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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713380" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. I am sorry for your obvious pain. Are you POSITIVE that no drugs are also involved? Sleeping all day/up all night is common in drug users who tend to use drugs when we sleep then, up high at night, they need sleepings pills (Xanax, Ambien, etc in order to calm down and sleep...usually all day.) My daughter did this. Extreme gamers can also use drugs. He can be addicted to games AND drugs.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, you have a young adult, VERY coddled by Mom, and immature, with Mom so far vowing to never throw Son out. She may change her mind if this behavior goes on for a long time, but right now she is not going to do it your way. Since you cant control anyone except yourself, you have to do what you feel is right, knowing that Mom wont follow. </p><p></p><p>It is never a good parenting ploy to give a non working, lazy, addicted to anything adult child money on demand. Most people know this, but still have trouble stopping the habit that causes our offspring to become immature, entitled and even more lazy. But it can make you feel like you are the "popular" parent, although it is not usually true. I think moms have a harder time pulling back than men, as a rule.</p><p></p><p>Try to grow thick skin and dont worry about what mother in law, brother in law, brother, your own mother, kissing cousins, friends think about your feelings. See a mental health professional for yourself if it is distressing to stand alone.</p><p></p><p>I am really sorry you are caught in a lose/lose situation, and sorry about your marriage falling apart. Try to be good to yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713380, member: 1550"] Hi. I am sorry for your obvious pain. Are you POSITIVE that no drugs are also involved? Sleeping all day/up all night is common in drug users who tend to use drugs when we sleep then, up high at night, they need sleepings pills (Xanax, Ambien, etc in order to calm down and sleep...usually all day.) My daughter did this. Extreme gamers can also use drugs. He can be addicted to games AND drugs. At any rate, you have a young adult, VERY coddled by Mom, and immature, with Mom so far vowing to never throw Son out. She may change her mind if this behavior goes on for a long time, but right now she is not going to do it your way. Since you cant control anyone except yourself, you have to do what you feel is right, knowing that Mom wont follow. It is never a good parenting ploy to give a non working, lazy, addicted to anything adult child money on demand. Most people know this, but still have trouble stopping the habit that causes our offspring to become immature, entitled and even more lazy. But it can make you feel like you are the "popular" parent, although it is not usually true. I think moms have a harder time pulling back than men, as a rule. Try to grow thick skin and dont worry about what mother in law, brother in law, brother, your own mother, kissing cousins, friends think about your feelings. See a mental health professional for yourself if it is distressing to stand alone. I am really sorry you are caught in a lose/lose situation, and sorry about your marriage falling apart. Try to be good to yourself. [/QUOTE]
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