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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 710867" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It helps to see your role as a Mother who is dealing with an adult, not a mommy kissing a sore to make it better. The world will treat him like a man, depression, anxiety or not. The truth is that both depression and anxiety are very common and most people with them work. Perhaps your son is trying to play the wounded little boy that maybe you see him as in order to get free money from you without growing up. The truth is scary...some men never grow up. Do you want him 30 and on your couch? 40? 50? This happens in some families. If it does, these people fail themselves and their adult children. We may always think of them as our kids, but others see them and think "adult." And treat and judge them that way. That is life.</p><p></p><p>It sounds to me as if he doesnt want to work and is playing you big time since he isnt afraid to leave the house... so he cant be that bad. The anxiety kicks up only at work? Maybe whatever drugs he uses (something you dont know) is adding to these symptoms. I once had true agoraphobia, or a form of it, and was afraid to leave the house even for fun...i had to get over it. I had to work. I got treatment. I went back to work and if I panicked at work I ran to the bathroom to calm down alone in a stall. Not fun but it got better as I did it.</p><p></p><p>The fact is panic attacks are not fun but they are also not dangerous and pass. Nobody ever died of a panic attack. Common human problem. Many have it. I work with a girl only 16 who has them but she obviously works and pushes forward. She goes to school.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can see that your son may be playing games with you and may well be on more drugs than you think. They never tell us and we dont want to think they may be on hard drugs. We deny the possibility. I did with my own daughter. After she quit she told all and I was shocked at all the various hard drugs she had regularly taken. I thought pot, just pot. It was actually meth, cocsine and ADHD drugs crushrf in a pillcrusher and snorted. And downers to go to sleep. We brlieved her dtug reactions was bipolar because a tjerapist said do. She has been clean over ten years. She doesnt have bipolar. Drug use mimics mental illness sometimes.</p><p></p><p> Also pot causes panic in some people. I tried it and it made me nervous and paranoid. Like alcohol, pot is not safe for all, even if doctors give in and prescribe it. Medsq are trial and error at this point in time. Pot also shoots down motivation. Especially daily use</p><p></p><p>I wish your family the best. You can do this. Just be his mother, not his mommy. There is a difference! You can be strong. Most of us had to learn how to let them grow up. You are not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 710867, member: 1550"] It helps to see your role as a Mother who is dealing with an adult, not a mommy kissing a sore to make it better. The world will treat him like a man, depression, anxiety or not. The truth is that both depression and anxiety are very common and most people with them work. Perhaps your son is trying to play the wounded little boy that maybe you see him as in order to get free money from you without growing up. The truth is scary...some men never grow up. Do you want him 30 and on your couch? 40? 50? This happens in some families. If it does, these people fail themselves and their adult children. We may always think of them as our kids, but others see them and think "adult." And treat and judge them that way. That is life. It sounds to me as if he doesnt want to work and is playing you big time since he isnt afraid to leave the house... so he cant be that bad. The anxiety kicks up only at work? Maybe whatever drugs he uses (something you dont know) is adding to these symptoms. I once had true agoraphobia, or a form of it, and was afraid to leave the house even for fun...i had to get over it. I had to work. I got treatment. I went back to work and if I panicked at work I ran to the bathroom to calm down alone in a stall. Not fun but it got better as I did it. The fact is panic attacks are not fun but they are also not dangerous and pass. Nobody ever died of a panic attack. Common human problem. Many have it. I work with a girl only 16 who has them but she obviously works and pushes forward. She goes to school. I hope you can see that your son may be playing games with you and may well be on more drugs than you think. They never tell us and we dont want to think they may be on hard drugs. We deny the possibility. I did with my own daughter. After she quit she told all and I was shocked at all the various hard drugs she had regularly taken. I thought pot, just pot. It was actually meth, cocsine and ADHD drugs crushrf in a pillcrusher and snorted. And downers to go to sleep. We brlieved her dtug reactions was bipolar because a tjerapist said do. She has been clean over ten years. She doesnt have bipolar. Drug use mimics mental illness sometimes. Also pot causes panic in some people. I tried it and it made me nervous and paranoid. Like alcohol, pot is not safe for all, even if doctors give in and prescribe it. Medsq are trial and error at this point in time. Pot also shoots down motivation. Especially daily use I wish your family the best. You can do this. Just be his mother, not his mommy. There is a difference! You can be strong. Most of us had to learn how to let them grow up. You are not alone. [/QUOTE]
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