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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 603081" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>I would think if she doesn't have a mental illness, it's time for you to end this. She really doesn't have any reason to work more than part time. She's quite cozy with hardly working, as my difficult child used to say, "Why should I?" when told to get a job. All her needs are met, a place to live, food, right? She works to pay for her phone and car, that's all she needs. You need to make it tougher on her for real. The deadline thing didn't work to motivate her. Try something else.</p><p>You may have to do something difficult and painful for you in order to help her. You may have to kick her out, since she stole from you it's easy...you can call the police. If she has to scramble for a place to live, food and all the comforts of home, good, that's a good motivator. She will have to learn the hard way. This is how many of our difficult child's learn, just by seeing what they don't want to live like. Honestly, do you really want a 30 year-old sitting in your house all day, or a 35-year-old? Something has to change this pattern she is stuck in. You may have to do a hard thing, it will get ugly between you two. It may stay that way for a few years, but one day, in a few years she will come back to you. She'll thank you. Things are getting worse now because she is stealing. Sending many hugs and support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 603081, member: 2668"] I would think if she doesn't have a mental illness, it's time for you to end this. She really doesn't have any reason to work more than part time. She's quite cozy with hardly working, as my difficult child used to say, "Why should I?" when told to get a job. All her needs are met, a place to live, food, right? She works to pay for her phone and car, that's all she needs. You need to make it tougher on her for real. The deadline thing didn't work to motivate her. Try something else. You may have to do something difficult and painful for you in order to help her. You may have to kick her out, since she stole from you it's easy...you can call the police. If she has to scramble for a place to live, food and all the comforts of home, good, that's a good motivator. She will have to learn the hard way. This is how many of our difficult child's learn, just by seeing what they don't want to live like. Honestly, do you really want a 30 year-old sitting in your house all day, or a 35-year-old? Something has to change this pattern she is stuck in. You may have to do a hard thing, it will get ugly between you two. It may stay that way for a few years, but one day, in a few years she will come back to you. She'll thank you. Things are getting worse now because she is stealing. Sending many hugs and support. [/QUOTE]
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