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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 765822" data-attributes="member: 3305">Momma Tried…I think we all second guess ourselves when our children’s lives become chaotic and our families are hurting.We try so desperately hard to do and say all the right things to no avail.&nbsp; That’s because the change must come from within them.&nbsp; I know when my boys were young teenagers and first got involved with drugs, I took it so personally.&nbsp; Like I had failed.&nbsp; And how could that be when I tried day in and day out for years to be the “perfect mother.”But then one day I realized this was never about poor parenting or good parenting…it’s about the choices our children make independent of us.&nbsp; And in many ways I was a very controlling parent.&nbsp; So I think there was definitely a high degree of rebellion on their part too.&nbsp; Sadly it just became a power struggle. Our house was a war zone in those years. Yes as Fairy dust said…“ Just keep telling him you love him and you are there to help when he is ready. When he is ready and that is his decision and only his.”</blockquote>

[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 765822, member: 3305"] Momma Tried… I think we all second guess ourselves when our children’s lives become chaotic and our families are hurting. We try so desperately hard to do and say all the right things to no avail. That’s because the change must come from within them. I know when my boys were young teenagers and first got involved with drugs, I took it so personally. Like I had failed. And how could that be when I tried day in and day out for years to be the “perfect mother.” But then one day I realized this was never about poor parenting or good parenting…it’s about the choices our children make independent of us. And in many ways I was a very controlling parent. So I think there was definitely a high degree of rebellion on their part too. Sadly it just became a power struggle. Our house was a war zone in those years. Yes as Fairy dust said… “ Just keep telling him you love him and you are there to help when he is ready. When he is ready and that is his decision and only his.” [/QUOTE]

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