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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 251156" data-attributes="member: 84">Susie I'll drop my classes if it comes to that.........or take incompletes. But with only 2 weeks to go......I'm hesitant. I've got a B in Math, at least a C in philosophy (unless I flunked that last essay) and a A or B going in sociology. So I'm not failing.....yet. By some miracle. Star.......Yeah, I know what you mean by "sassing" the man upstairs. Which is why I didn't do that...instead, I just thought about it. lol He's taught me a lesson or two myself, unfortunately.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint    :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /> Marg, we tried the Occupational Therapist (OT) thing the last time. It didn't work. mother in law's house is as safety proof as it can possibly get. She doesn't qualify for in home care via medicare and can't afford it on her own. Already tried that too. She will promise to wear the alert button, then won't do it. She will promise to call, but won't follow thru. While she is awfully "together" for 95, she is also awfully forgetful and it's getting worse with each passing month. She is dropping weight fast.....I suspect she's in too much pain from her severely arthritic hips to move much.......and she already has to potty a million times a day.....so is skipping meals just because it's just too painful to prepare. The bath they gave mother in law this morning was her first since her last admit to hospital about 6 months ago. Her full size bath is upstairs. She can't manage the stairs. So she sponge bathes......and not very well I might add. And now I am more than ready to skin her bleeping bleeping fam doctor alive.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad    :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> Yesterday I didn't know that her hip was horribly bruised. Ortho doctor checked on her today and ordered an MRI of her hip because her arthritis is so severe he couldn't tell on xray if she'd broken it. Now evidently mother in law had a hissy fit and refused the MRI. So fam doctor cancelled the order without even freaking consulting the family!!!<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad    :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> This man already rubs me wrong. Last time she was admitted he was supposed to give her a DNR card. He didn't. Mr. I Think I'm God says they can call him and he'll tell them she's DNR. When we tell him we know neither paramedics nor hospital staff are going to stop in the middle of a code to call her doctor.........We get a holier than thou attitude. He's going to get an earful this evening. Both from easy child and myself. Because unless mother in law has that MRI, there is no way in hades she's leaving that hospital cuz I'm not taking her anywhere!!!! mother in law will be told this as well. She is not going home to hobble on a broken hip. mother in law is having a fit because she hasn't even gotten up since they brought her to hospital. Staff feels she's too weak and in too much pain and won't try it. So she doesn't even know if she CAN walk! And no, I haven't been there as yet today. I'm meeting husband there with easy child in about 2 hours. I'm supposed to be sleeping. I have not slept at all last night or today. My kidneys are in a major uproar. I've got the mega spasms from hades going on along with reg pain. Which means at best, they're probably blocked. I've been reduced to taking Nichole's pain medications. Can't go to ER.....the wait is outragious at both nearby hospital. And can't get in to see a doctor because I'm trying to oversee this carp with mother in law. easy child has the knowledge......but mother in law won't listen to her because she still thinks of her as a child. husband can't do it because mother in law will tell him to go straight to hades and he'l back off. But mother in law knows I"m more stubborn than she is and won't usually fight me. And she knows I give it to her straight, and love her enough that I'm only thinking about what is best for her. I didn't make it to class today due to no sleep and pain. I didn't get homework turned in last night.....or even to work on it due to mother in law, pain, and trying to fill in husband's brother and wife so we can come up with a plan of action. So I'm taking Nichole's pain medications and hoping to hold off my own emergency until I can at least know what's up with mother in law and what we're gonna do. I don't like it, but that's the way it's got to be for the moment. Once I get mother in law settled, I'll take care of me. And if, God forbid, I need surgery, I'll drop my classes and just make them up later. As for help? easy child and husband are honestly trying to help as much as they can, even Nichole is pitching in. brother in law and sister in law are trying to make arrangements to get up here......They're currently trying to rent a car to drive up and help. I know mother in law is terrified of going into assisted living or the nursing home. And I'm worried assisted living is not going to take her now as she has deteriorated in mobility that much in the past months. I understand her fear and I truly empathize. (she's afraid of being at the mercy of strangers) BUT that is far better than lying on the floor for days, slowly dehydrating, becoming hypothermic, and starving to death.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown    :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Alright. Popping another pain medication and gonna try again to take a nap before going up to hospital.</blockquote>

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