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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 704987" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Crayola, don't panic yet. My 23 year old son was born with cocaine in his system. He never drinks or smokes anything. I warned him too. He REALLY isn't interested in substances. So there is hope for your son too.</p><p></p><p>So stressed, I think you need to do this your way. Honestly, the older our kids get, functional or not, the less we matter unless they want something from us. They move on to relationships, good or bad, but that significant other is who they most want to love them.</p><p></p><p> Sometimes they dont pick good partners, but the partner becomes the most important person in their life. You may have seen this with your sons boyfriend. The SO becomes #1.</p><p></p><p>A reminder:</p><p></p><p>Whenever you get a response here, understand we are sharing from the heart, but we are not right or wrong. Take whatever you like from the often confusing, differing feedback you get. What works for you? If nothing I say resonates, discard it. Same with any advice. We are novices, stumbling to find the right way for you.</p><p></p><p>We do care. All of us care. But none of us are experts. We are just moms and we are trying on different hats ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and good luck. This is hard and without a manuel. That's were Al Anon or a private therapist can help. Al Anon and therapy saved me when I felt confused and lost and didnt know what to do. Or when I felt guilty. A neutral third party is often able to give us great clarity. And strength.</p><p></p><p>We all hold your hand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 704987, member: 1550"] Crayola, don't panic yet. My 23 year old son was born with cocaine in his system. He never drinks or smokes anything. I warned him too. He REALLY isn't interested in substances. So there is hope for your son too. So stressed, I think you need to do this your way. Honestly, the older our kids get, functional or not, the less we matter unless they want something from us. They move on to relationships, good or bad, but that significant other is who they most want to love them. Sometimes they dont pick good partners, but the partner becomes the most important person in their life. You may have seen this with your sons boyfriend. The SO becomes #1. A reminder: Whenever you get a response here, understand we are sharing from the heart, but we are not right or wrong. Take whatever you like from the often confusing, differing feedback you get. What works for you? If nothing I say resonates, discard it. Same with any advice. We are novices, stumbling to find the right way for you. We do care. All of us care. But none of us are experts. We are just moms and we are trying on different hats ourselves. Hugs and good luck. This is hard and without a manuel. That's were Al Anon or a private therapist can help. Al Anon and therapy saved me when I felt confused and lost and didnt know what to do. Or when I felt guilty. A neutral third party is often able to give us great clarity. And strength. We all hold your hand. [/QUOTE]
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